Many people who are bullied feel alone and hopeless and they feel that there is nothing they can do to fix the situation. Some of these people think that suicide is an option. They are wrong. There are many ways to deal with your bullying situation. As a published author of a managing fear book and as a Layman, here are seven reasons why suicide is not an option to your problems and how you can better the situation. Learn the 7 Reasons Why Suicide Is Not The Answer to your bullying situation with Stan Popovich.
Regardless of your bullying situation, things do not stay the same. You may feel very bad today, but it won’t last forever. Sooner or later, the people who doing the bullying will find someone else to pick on. Remember this fact: Regardless of your current situation, everything changes over time. This includes your current situation. Nothing remains the same forever.
2. There Are Always Other Options…..Always
You may feel lost and confused but the answers to your specific bullying problems are out there. The key is that you have to find the answers. The answers to your problem will not come to you. You find those answers by talking to a professional counselor or teacher who can give you advice on how to deal with the situation.
You are fearful, confused and do not know where to turn. You think that there is no hope for you. When you are in this situation, remember the 99% rule. The 99% rule states that that no one can predict the future with one hundred percent certainty. Even if the thing that you are afraid of does happen, there are circumstances and factors that you can’t predict which can be used to your advantage. For instance, you miss the deadline for a project you have been working on for the last few months. Everything you feared is coming true. Suddenly, your boss comes to your office and tells you that the deadline is extended and that he forgot to tell you the day before. This unknown factor changes everything. We may be ninety-nine percent correct in predicting the future, but all it takes is for that one percent to make a world of difference.
4. Focus On The Facts of Your Situation and Not Your Thoughts And Feelings
When people are bullied they rely on their fearful, depressing, and negative thoughts and feelings. That is a huge mistake. Your fearful thoughts are exaggerated and are not based on reality. When you are depressed, focus on the facts of your current situation and not on what you think. Do not assume anything regarding your current situation. Rely on the current facts of your situation and not on how you feel.
Many people who are bullied focus on the short term effects of their situation. For example, many people focus on what will happen in the next week or month. These people then feel hopeless and consider suicide as an answer to their pain. The best thing is to focus on the long term part of your life. Ask yourself what will things be like in the next year. As mentioned before things change over time. Suicide is a short term solution and there is no going back. Get help, and focus on the long term part of your life.
6. Be Flexible To Possible Solutions
If you are a student and for some reason everybody at school is on your case, then try to be creative in finding the answer. One answer is to move to another school. This may seem dramatic and cause a lot of work, but it’s a lot better than ending your life or being miserable and depressed every single day. Again talk to your teacher or counselor on steps you can take to solve the situation. Be creative in finding the answers to your problems.
7. Your Reputation Isn’t All It’s Cracked Up To Be
Many people who are bullied consider ending their life because there reputation is ruined. The rule of thumb is do not worry about what other people think of you. What is important is what you think of yourself. Don’t live your life based on what others will think. The law of averages states that is impossible to be liked by every single person you run into. In addition, reputations can change over time just like being popular. Be confident with yourself and learn how to defend your self will go a long way. When people see that you don’t care what they think, they will leave you alone and pick on someone else. The people who are doing the bullying just want the attention. Don’t give them that satisfaction. If these people know they are not getting under your skin, they will eventually leave you alone. No situation is hopeless. Your loved ones, friends, relatives, God, mental health counselors, priests, ministers, etc. are all good sources of help. They are all willing to help you and they can make a difference, but you must be willing to take advantage of this help. Regardless of your situation, take advantage of the help that is around you. Remember: Every problem has a solution. You just have to find it.
BIOGRAPHY: Stan Popovich is the author of “A Layman’s Guide to Managing Fear Using Psychology, Christianity and Non Resistant Methods” – an easy to read book that presents a general overview of techniques that are effective in managing persistent fears and anxieties. Stan’s book has over 300 Book Reviews And Counting. For additional information go to: http://www.managingfear.com/