The tragic story of Sarah Lynn Butler
|Birth:||Jul. 18, 1997
|Death:||Sep. 26, 2009
|Hardy, Arkansas Obituaries
Sarah Lynn Butler, age 12 of Hardy entered into rest Saturday, September 26, 2009 at her home.She was born July 18, 1997 at Irving, Texas to William Waldsachs and Starr Butler.She was a student at Williford High School, a member of the ASPIRE Club, and played in the band. She was of the Baptist Faith.Survivors include her mother and step-father, Starr and Albert Chapps of the home, her father, William Waldsachs of Kentucky, three brothers, Timothy Butler of Cherokee Village, Jesse Butler of Hardy, Derek Chapps of Highland, two sisters, Amber Ruff of Cherokee Village, and Holly Chapps of Highland, her grandparents, Larry and Terry Myers of Hardy, two uncles, Lonnie Wimberly of Ozark Acres and Cory Butler of Hardy, six aunts, Yolanda Wimberly of Ozark Acres, Rose Chapps of Paragould, Linda Stafford of Strawberry, Carol Rasmussen of Texas, Beverly O’Barts of Possum Grape, and Elizabeth Waldsachs of San Antonio, Texas and a host of cousins and friends.Burial will follow in the Bakers Cemetery located northeast of Hardy.
Pallbearers will be Chris Burnette, Ben Verell, Scott Lloyd, Jody Shackelford, Buddy O’Barts, and Brandon Burnette.
Letter to Sarah
You never knew me, but your story helped me in so many ways. In the seventh grade I thought very seriously about suicide, and when I read your story I cried and realized that it’s not what I wanted. Sarah you were such a beautiful girl and you would have been a beautiful young woman. I pray for you all the time and I hope you enjoy heaven. Rest in peace princess. <3
Sarah Lynn Butler was 12 years old and a seventh grade student in Hardy, Arkansas. She had just been voted Queen for the upcoming Fall Festival. This should have been the happiest time of her young life. She was beautiful, honored by her school classmates, but there was something untimely lurking around her, something sinister and foreboding. For some inexplicable reason, she was being teased cruelly at school and it spread to bullying messages on her MySpace page on the internet.
Sarah’s mother advised authorities that she often checked her daughter’s MySpace page to make sure there wasn’t anything inappropriate sent or received. She was conscientiously overseeing Sarah’s networking. The mother noticed Sarah was getting bad messages about rumors about her character and chastity at school, saying she was a slut. Sarah’s mother talked to her daughter about the slurs, encouraging Sarah to ignore the comments and also the people making them. However, Sarah removed her mother from her list of friends on MySpace so her mother could no longer access her page.
The Final Bullying
On the morning of her suicide, Sarah stayed home while her family was out, and logged on to her MySpace page. The last message she read said that she was easily forgotten, and that she was “just a stupid little naive girl” and nobody would miss her whenever she was gone.
Shortly thereafter her parents returned home to discover she had hanged herself. She left a suicide note that said she “couldn’t handle what others are saying about me.”
Recognize That Bullying Causes Suicides
Bullying-related suicides in the US and abroad focused attention to bullying and suicide. Though some adults still minimize bullying as “just part of being a kid,” it is a serious problem that has to be dealt a hard blow. Negative effects on bullying victims, including suicide, are too common to ignore or whitewash any longer. Many people may not realize that there is also a link between being a bully and committing suicide!
- Suicide is a leading cause of death among the young, causing 4,400 deaths per year, according to reports of CDC. Significantly there are 100 attempts for every successful suicide among the young. Over 14 percent of high school students admit they considered suicide, and almost 7 percent have tried.
- Studies by Yale University report that bully victims are 2 to 9 times more likely to consider suicide than non-victims.
- A British study found that at least half of suicides among young people are firmly related to bullying, and 10 to 14 year old girls may be at even higher risk for suicide, according to the study.
- According to ABC News, nearly 30 percent of students are either perpetrators or victims of bullying, and 160,000 kids stay home daily due to bullying fears.
- Depression, ongoing sadness, withdrawal, losing interest insomnia, or eating disorder
- Talking about death or dying
- Engaging in dangerous activities, reckless behavior, abusing substances or self-injury
- Giving away possessions, saying goodbye to people
- Expressing inability to handle things any more
- Saying things would be better without them
Get them help right away, such as from a counselor, doctor, or at the emergency room.
- Take all talk of suicide seriously. Don’t say they are wrong or emphasize how much they have to live for. Get them professional help.
- Keep weapons and medications away. Get these items out of the house or under lock and key.
- It may be embarrassing for kids to admit they are the victims of bullying, and most don’t want to admit it. Show love and support. Get them professional help if the bullying is causing a disruption to the person’s emotions.
- All parents must insist on being included in social networking sites so they will see bullying of a child online. Keep open communications about bullying.
- Talk to school authorities and maybe the bully’s parents. Recent lawsuits against schools and criminal charges against bullies show that there are legal avenues and if the school doesn’t act, local police or attorneys can.
There are free suicide hotlines, such as 1-800-273-TALK (8255).