Here are a few tips which may prove helpful in taking a more active role in Preventing Bullying, which parents can do all the time:
1) Attend local PTO meetings. By knowing what your local district is doing about bullying, you may be able to influence the policies. Ask about the bullying policy if you do not know what it is, and offer to sit on the board of the committee of any new regulations on bullying.
2) Talk to your child’s teachers. As mentioned before, getting information from your child’s teachers may prove one of the most crucial phases of making sure your child is being treated fairly. If teachers know you want to be involved, they may even invite you to come to school once in awhile to help with projects. By being present in the school building, the bully at least may wonder if the reason the parent is there is because of him, and it just might be enough to stop it in its tracks.
3) Stop bullying before it starts. By teaching your children to say “NO” to bullying at the first onset of bullying from another child, future problems or ongoing incidences may be thwarted. Tell them that bullying is harassment and it is wrong. They should understand that they did nothing wrong and that there is nothing wrong in telling someone when we need help.
4) Form a parents’ advocacy group. Ask the school counsellor to help you form a parents’ advocacy group on bullying, whereby parents of bullied kids can meet and discuss positive solutions to the issues, such as inviting other parents to the meetings, even those whose child did the bullying, when appropriate. If moderated by an expert, such as a school counsellor or local therapist, some problems may be resolved in this way.
5) View media such as DVDs and CDs of bullying situations and teach kids what to do in the event they are bullied. This should be implemented by the local school district, but parents can also help by instilling the values promoted in the media at home as well. There are a lot of resources that help both educators and parents deal with this issue that is becoming more and more commonplace.
6) School counselors should get the statistics and information out there to parents and educators which will inspire them to act. For example, did you know that many kids who were bullied end up engaging in acts of bullying or violence later themselves. In an attempt to save face, they will sometimes get into altercations with the bullies, or worse, take it out on a number of others.
7) Contact local legislators and express your concerns about the inconsistencies between cyber bullying and other types of bullying laws. Point out that the double standard that is currently in place can no longer be applicable to today, due to the easy access of social media and technology. No bullying should mean just that, no matter where it is found.
8) Attend all school meetings and school functions, whenever possible. If you are present at school nights, you may be in a better position to influence staff members or administrators to do something about bullying when it occurs. Think of it as something you can do not only for your own kids, but for other children also who could fall victim to bullying.
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9) Remember bullying comes in several forms. There is verbal abuse, (such as name-calling, ridiculing, teasing), physical bullying, (hitting, kicking, or other physical attack), and quiet intimidation, whereby someone just leans over another kid and whispers something in their ear that is a threat, if they do not do what they want.
10) Always be aware. Educators, parents, and kids should all be aware of bullying situations whenever they occur, in order to create the safety level kids need and deserve, both at school and elsewhere.
Finally, if we are to succeed in a plan of Preventing Bullying, and implement a true “no bullying” policy, everyone must work together as a team to ensure that this senseless intimidation does not continue. Even kids can take a stand by reporting any bullying wherever and whenever they see it, and telling their parents so that they can do something about it. Parents should also monitor online use so that they know who their kids are talking to, and if they are experiencing cyber bullying.