Sometimes as a parent you have the feelings that you are on your own and are not able to move forward. Whether you just are not able to get through to your children or you don’t know what to do next, there are all sorts of different situations you can become depressed and down on yourself. However, it is helpful to know there are other individuals out there who have not only been through the same situation as you but often times much worse. These parent quotes are inspiration, sometimes they are funny and capable of pointing out the good and bad of parenting, but ultimately, it is all designed to help inspire you and to let you know what there are others who are in the same boat as you.
Ayelet Waldman “Bad Mother: A Chronicle of Maternal Crimes, Minor Calamities, and Occasional Moments of Grace”
“Even if I’m setting myself up for failure, I think it’s worth trying to be a mother who delights in who her children are, in their knock-knock jokes and earnest questions. A mother who spends less time obsessing about what will happen, or what has happened, and more time reveling in what is. A mother who doesn’t fret over failings and slights, who realizes her worries and anxieties are just thoughts, the continuous chattering and judgment of a too busy mind. A mother who doesn’t worry so much about being bad or good but just recognizes that she’s both, and neither. A mother who does her best, and for whom that is good enough, even if, in the end, her best turns out to be, simply, not bad. ”
Ayelet hits parenting over the head with these parent quotes, in that it is important to support your child, tell them their art is good when it isn’t your favorite, clap when their musical performance isn’t the best and laugh when the joke they make isn’t funny. This is enough to inspire your child and to help them move forward with their life and to develop interests and passions. By simply being there and supporting your child, you do more for them than you might ever know.
Martin Luther “The Sermons of Martin Luther: 7 Volumes”
“Although it is very easy to marry a wife, it is very difficult to support her along with the children and the household. Accordingly, no one notices this faith of Jacob. Indeed, many hate fertility in a wife for the sole reason that the offspring must be supported and brought up. For this is what they commonly say: ‘Why should I marry a wife when I am a pauper and a beggar? I would rather bear the burden of poverty alone and not load myself with misery and want.’ But this blame is unjustly fastened on marriage and fruitfulness. Indeed, you are indicting your unbelief by distrusting God’s goodness, and you are bringing greater misery upon yourself by disparaging God’s blessing. For if you had trust in God’s grace and promises, you would undoubtedly be supported. But because you do not hope in the Lord, you will never prosper.”
Martin Luther is one of the most influential individuals in the Christian church, and regardless of your beliefs, he points out something very important in this quote. He indicates that just about anyone can marry, and doing so is incredibly easy. However, raising a child is one of the most difficult tasks you might ever take on in your life, and it is not something that simply ends after one day or allows you breaks. It is a full time journey you partake on.
Bell Hooks “Feminism Is for Everybody: Passionate Politics”
“In a culture which holds the two-parent patriarchal family in higher esteem than any other arrangement, all children feel emotionally insecure when their family does not measure up to the standard. A utopian vision of the patriarchal family remains intact despite all the evidence which proves that the well-being of children is no more secure in the dysfunctional male-headed household than in the dysfunctional female-headed household. Children need to be raised in loving environments. Whenever domination is present love is lacking. Loving parents, be they single or coupled, gay or straight, headed by females or males, are more likely to raise healthy, happy children with sound self-esteem. In future feminist movement we need to work harder to show parents the ways ending sexism positively changes family life. Feminist movement is pro-family. Ending patriarchal domination of children, by men or women, is the only way to make the family a place where children can be safe, where they can be free, where they can know love”
Not only is this one of the more inspiring quotes about parenting, it is one of the best perfect single parent quotes you are able to find. Many institutions knock raising a child on your own, but sometimes you have no other option. As Bell points out, you should not let other people get you down or distract you, as you can raise incredible children. While it might take more dedication and attention, there is no reason why you can not succeed as such a parent.
C.S. Lewis “The Four Loves”
We hear a great deal about the rudeness of the ris- ing generation. I am an oldster myself and might be expected to take the oldsters’ side, but in fact I have been far more impressed by the bad manners of parents to children than by those of children to parents. Who has not been the embarrassed guest at family meals where the father or mother treated their grown-up offspring with an incivility which, offered to any other young people, would simply have terminated the acquaintance? Dogmatic assertions on matters which the children understand and their elders don’t, ruthless interruptions, flat contradictions, ridicule of things the young take seriously sometimes of their religion insulting references to their friends, all provide an easy answer to the question “Why are they always out? Why do they like every house better than their home?” Who does not prefer civility to barbarism?”
C.S. Lewis is truly one of the great authors of the last 100 years. While “The Chronicles of Narnia” is his more famous work, the author penned some truly inspirational pieces of material, and this excerpt from “The Four Loves” is of no difference. In it, he found one of the most important facts that not only love is what makes you a parent, but your ability to create civility in your household from the love you share with your children.
Brene Brown “Daring Greatly: How the Courage to be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead”
“The real questions for parents should be: “Are you engaged? Are you paying attention?” If so, plan to make lots of mistakes and bad decisions. Imperfect parenting moments turn into gifts as our children watch us try to figure out what went wrong and how we can do better next time. The mandate is not to be perfect and raise happy children. Perfection doesn’t exist, and I’ve found what makes children happy doesn’t always prepare them to be courageous, engaged adults.”
Brene points out a very important element of being a parent. You need to be involved and engaged with your children. It is easy to simply be there, but if you are not connected with your children you are missing out and your child is missing out as well. It is important for your child to feel the direct connection only engagement is able to provide. So, while there are times you simply are not able to be around, it is important to provide as much attention and support as possible.
Jodi Picoult “Change of Heart.”
We pretend that we know our children, because it’s easier than admitting the truth–from the minute that cord is cut, they are strangers. It’s far easier to tell yourself your daughter is still a little girl than to see her in a bikini and realize she has the curves of a young woman; it’s safer to say you’re a good parent who has all the right conversations about drugs and sex than to acknowledge there are a thousand things she would never tell you.”
Jodi brings up a very interesting point, in that many parents assume they know their children. They might know their child’s friends or some of their likes, but they might not truly know what their child does, what they are interested in, if they have partaken in any sort of drugs or sexual encounters. Many parents just don’t want to think about this, but it is important to not only have an awareness of this but to discuss the situation with your children as well. Of course, you should not grow upset when your child shares you with something, as doing so is going to break the bond of trust you have with a child, which is extremely difficult to mend. This is one of the more enlightening quotes about parents.