The world is full of insecurity. It is possible to become insecure about almost anything. As an adult, you know exactly what this is like and that it only becomes worse as you age. From dealing with work to dreams you have not yet fulfilled to simply the aging process, there are all sorts of issues that you can become insecure about. However, it really comes down to how you learn to deal with these insecurities as you grow up. The most important thing you can do for your child is to keep them feeling secure and confident about themselves. There are times where they might feel inadequate after failing to make a sports team, or not being invited to a birthday party. All of these can be rather traumatic for a child, but these are crucial learning and teaching points you need to take advantage of as it can drastically shape their lives. While you never know what the world might bring to you or your child’s door, you can prepare them and work with them to ensure they are able to stay confident and secure.
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The most important way you can help in overcoming insecurity is to be there for your child. A child does not know how to deal with these insecurities, and school can be a pretty difficult place sometimes. Whether they are being picked on for their name or for wearing glasses, kids tend to pick on anyone who is different in any sort of way. You probably went through something similar as you grew up. You need to be there for your child to help them. Now, this does not mean rushing down to the school and demanding the school punish the other children responsible. Instead, you simply need to talk to your child and discuss the situation. Talking to them about their day is important. Whether this is at the dinner table or at bed time, always try to find out how your child is enjoying school and what is going on in their life. Chances are, you are able to tell when something is off. Some might wonder what does being insecure mean, but you probably have had the feeling before. It means you are not sure of yourself or confident in what you are doing. Your child might feel insecure about wearing braces to school or wearing their favorite action hero t-shirt because they don’t want to stand out. It can be difficult for a child to understand that individuality is what makes being a human great; it just might take them some time to truly realize it.
Talk to Other Parents
It is important to gather a bigger picture as to what is going on. Your child is going to provide you a version of the story in their own mind, yet they might leave out certain information. Talking with the parents of your child’s friends can help fill in the picture a bit more. Of course, there are going to be times where you are not always able to talk without children around you while you are talking. That is why you need to take a walk or even a drive or make a phone call. Staying in touch with what is going on with your child, their friends and the school can help you determine what is going on and what you need to do.
Teach your child how to love him/herself!
You need to find out what your child is feeling insecure about. They usually won’t have major insecurity issues until they start middle school and high school. As they grow up, hormones play a huge role in this situation. As you know, there are all sorts of insecure people out there, from insecure men to women, there is usually not one person who can avoid insecurity at some point in their life. This can be a food insecurity, problem with hair loss, weight gain, not finding a spouse by a certain age or the failure to have children. Insecurities become larger and larger as someone ages, which is exactly why you need to work with your child at a young age. Talk to them and find out why they are feeling insecure. You need to make them feel comfortable about what they are going through.
One of the best ways you can help your child combat insecurity is to teach them what it means to be insecure and show them pictures and examples of how others overcame their insecurities. If you have a daughter and she is feeling insecure about having braces or wearing glasses, you can find a picture of a famous celebrity online from their childhood and high school yearbook rather easily, so track down one of such a person your child knows with braces or glasses. You can point out how they had braces, and look at them now! Your little girl is just like Jennifer Aniston or Heidi Klum. They need to know that this is just temporary. If you have a son who is struggling with hitting the ball, he might feel insecure about his athletic abilities. If this is the case, pick up a deck of baseball cards and pull out a player who hits a lot of home runs. Flip the card over and show him their batting average. Tell him that although they hit a large number of home runs, they actually only hit the ball maybe 25 percent of the time. You need to let your child know that they are not alone and that everyone struggles, but it is going to make them better. If they know other individuals have gone through this situation before and have come out just fine, they are going to be more likely to move past this insecurity.
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When you look and define insecurity, you are going to find there are all sorts of areas where someone can completely lose confidence. This is just a point in life. Not everyone is going to be the best at everything, all the time. Growing up it can be difficult to discover this, but as a parent, it is important for you to be there for your child. You want to make sure they are able to overcome their insecurity and move past it. Simply listening to your child and finding out how their day went is essential, and it also brings you and your children closer together. It is also going to help your child develop as well. Beyond that, you always need a way to let your child know they are not alone and that millions of other people have been through the same problems before. While saying “millions of other people” is not going to put a face on it, if you can compare the situation to that of someone they know and admire, it can help them feel better about themselves and show to them that it is possible to become something truly great after everything.
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