I Hate People: Why Some People Are Just Anti Social
For the most part, human beings are social creatures. However, in some cases people become anti social for a number of different reasons. Some of the causes are more serious than others. Often people become anti social because of traumas they suffered during their early stages of life. There are several documented medical reasons why some people are anti social.
Asperger’s and Autism are among the most common reasons why a person might become anti social. Affected individuals are born with Asperger’s, which can be detected while they are still infants.Those who suffer from this syndrome often don’t understand how to interact with others in an acceptable way. Often they will avert their eyes when talking to someone as well. Since they generally have a very limited number of interests they find it hard to communicate with others and, as a result, they become anti social.
Depression And Allergies
Anyone suffering from depression often thinks to themselves “do people like me,” or “my coworkers hate me.” They can develop a general dislike of people because they simply don’t want to be bothered to deal with them. For people suffering from depression, hating people is something that begins to feel normal to them. This can also happen in people who have severe allergies to things such as certain foods and perfumes. They may not hate people as much as their counterparts but they don’t wan to be near those who will trigger their allergies either.
Social Anxiety Disorder
One of the most common reasons people become anti social is because they suffer from Social Anxiety Disorder. Some people with this fear din’t even want to do basic things such as drinking and eating in the presence of other people. Others are not comfortable working with or around other people because their way of thinking is “I feel like everyone hates me.” The symptoms of Social Anxiety Disorder include:
- having temper tantrums
- upset stomach
- muscle tension
- a pounding heart
Anyone with a particularly low or high IQ often find themselves preferring isolation over being among people. This may be because people with a particularly low or particularly high IQ feel like there are not many other people in this world they can relate to. As a result they often end up hating people.
Learned Reasons That Make People Anti Social
A general hatred of people is not always caused by a medical reason. Situational reasons also play a big part in how an individual feels about other people in general. This can include either childhood or spousal abuse. If one spouse abuses the other one the abused spouse will often ask himself or herself “do you hate me?” This can lead an abused individual to have the attitude that “they don’t like me” with the “they” pertaining to specific people or random people.
Often individuals who are bullied in school and/or in the work place begin to hate others. Since they feel vulnerable around other people they tend to isolate themselves and avoid socialization at all costs. Children who are sheltered and/or overprotected by their parents often become anti social because they feel the world is a dangerous place and other people simply can’t be trusted, no matter what. This also applies to children who feel that everytime they try to be social with their peers and classmates they are unsuccessful in their efforts. As a result, many of these children feel like they don’t deserve to be around other people.
People with extremely strong ethics and morals often find themselves isolated as well. This is generally because they feel that they are better off not being among people who have morals and ethics not as strong as theirs.
Even people who are simply overworked and over extended may get to the point where they begin to think “I hate people so much,” or “I hate talking to people.” Often in these cases the overworked individual simply doesn’t have the energy needed to interact with others and after time it just becomes easier not to. People who have a tendency to be bored no matter what life has to offer them also often end up hating others. Someone suffering from chronic boredom may have intellectual problems or even spiritual or psychological problems that affect how they feel about others.
It is not unusual for certain childhood memories to cause someone to hate people later in life. Children who are exposed to negative situations invovling those around them sometimes develop into introverts later in life.
When one chooses the wrong friends during childhood this can have long term effects on the way they perceive other people. Making friends with the wrong kids leads to behavior others consider undesriable and this can alienate an individual from most of the people around them. Those who try to make friends and are continually turned away by those people often get to the point where they no longer want friends because they are simply not comfortable socializing with others.
Children who come from very reserved families often grow up to prefer their own company to anyone else’s. Since a person’s background in life directly effects how they behave socially this can have lifelong consequences for some.
Severely Anti Social
People who are severely anti -social usually don’t have any response to possible treatment as they feel that therapy and other forms of help are terrifying undertakings that they refuse to deal with. These people often don’t live up to their full potential as human beings because they simply aren’t validated enough for the things that they do right to have any motivation to keep doing these things and improving upon their skills and performance.
Lack Of Responsibility
Those that are anti social tend to not take responsibility for their own actions. The reason for this is often that they don’t feel that there are any relevant consequences to anything they choose to do in life. They usually don’t feel guilty for doing things they shouldn’t and are never ashamed of their actions or behavior.
The Development Of Anti Social Behavior
Statistics show that up to 20% of the U.S. population engages in anti social behavior. Of the 20% that do suffer from their lack of socializing 2.5% of them are classified as suppressive people. These people tend to get stuck in the past and are not able to grow as human beings. They concentrate on resolving problems they have had in the past instead of focusing on any current problems they might have.
Etiology disorder is also known as a sociopathic disorder. It usually develops during the childhood or adolescent years and is seen in men more often than in women. In many cases the symptoms of this disorder do not actually show up in someone until they have reached their adult years. However, in many cases of people suffering from Etiology disorder behaviors that identify the disorder are found in patients who are under 15 year olds. After that people who suffer from this disorder often have no regards for other peoples’ rights. They generally do not conform to the rules of society and end up in legal trouble frequently as a result. These people are often impulsive and don’t take into account the consequences of their actions. Not only do they feel no remorse when they do something wrong they have no empathy towards anyone.
This type of disorder affects the way in which people respond to either punishments or rewards. They do not respond as other people would due, in part, to the fact that their nervous system is not as active as it is in others. This explains why people suffering from Etiology disorder are impulsive and get bored easily, but at the same time are easily excitable. It can lead to an increased risk of abusing substances such as drugs and alcohol.
Hating People Upon Aging
For some, a hatred of people does not set in until they are getting older. They may get to the point where they are so fed up with other people that they begin to hate them and hate having to interact with them. In many cases this is because as people age they don’t want to be surrounded by younger people, causing them to become anti social.
Genetic Anti Social Behavior
In some cases an individual can become anti social because it is in their genes. People who inherit anti socialness often don’t respond to stress as much as other people do; they tend to let it bother them less than the average person would. Their anxiety levels are generally lower than people who are not anti social, though it is often harder for them to get aroused by day to day activities.
Someone diagnosed with an anti personality disorder can become aggressive due to their brain functioning differently than others. There is debate within the medical community as to whether or not a person’s brain structure can affect how social they are because it can be hard to determine when anti social behavior develops and when their is a biological reason for the behavior.
Any individual who seemingly hates people may be suffering from neurological problems, or they may be another explanation for their behavior. No one has to suffer if they feel like they hate people and they want help. There are many qualified therapists and other doctors that can help pinpoint why a person is anti social and take steps to help them become more social. While on some level there is nothing wrong with being anti social one needs to assess how their anti social behavior is affecting the quality of their life. Some people truly are happier and healthier when they keep to thrmselves for the most part.
There is no shame in developing anti social behaviors as many of the reasons people develop these behaviors are a direct result of the various experiences they have had throughout their life. Everyone should be able to rely on and trust other people if they feel it will improve their life.