For those who grew up in the 1950s, with Andy Griffith in towns across the U.S. like Mayberry, life appeared to be a polite, happy, and pleasant world. Life was much simpler. When the 60s and 70s came about bringing over the Beatles, marijuana, and social unrest in the Civil Right’s movements, racism and hate still existed in America. The destruction of the Twin Towers on September 11, 2001, affected the world, but, in the U.S., the crisis brought all Americans together in unity. People were generally happy after recovery got underway. Up until the stock market crashed in 2008, where the average American was stripped of their jobs, life savings, and homes, the government has been struggling to recover, but not without leaving a new, negative attitude nationwide.
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Many don’t want to play the social game and find it difficult to sustain the pretences of the care-free, happy lifestyle. The attitudes and sentiments of the general public have changed, and you might find some of this “new” philosophy familiar and even comfortable. The “I hate you – Why does everybody hate me” social era has arrived. The general attitude has shifted, fuses are short, and people are more transient because employment ties are broken. Frustration in society is more evident than ever before. Here are some of the prevailing attitudes; see if you can relate.
Everyone hates me. Why do I hate people? I hate you. I hate people. Why do I hate everyone? Why do I hate people? Here is an explanation from Henry David Thoreau.
“Society is commonly too cheap. We meet at very short intervals, not having had time to acquire any new value for each other. We meet at meals three times a day, and give each other a new taste of that musty old cheese that we are. We have had to agree on a certain set of rules, called etiquette and politeness, to make this frequent meeting tolerable and that we need not come to open war. We meet at the post office, and at the sociable, and at the fireside every night; we live thick and are in each other’s way, and we stumble over one another, and I think that we lose some respect for one another.”
I Hate Everyone and Everyone Hates Me
Is there something wrong with someone who has this outlook on life, who has grasped on to the negative flow in today’s society? The general public would say that there is nothing to be happy about, so why should I pretend? Why am I required to socialize when going out in public? Most people have to admit that if they are walking through the mall and they see a co-worker coming towards them, they will quickly duck into a store and avoid an “accidental meeting.” It is too much pressure on the social etiquette. Around the world, society is avoiding personal contact, and this avoidance creates violence in adults and bullying in teens. Is there something wrong with this behavior?
Introverts would say no and extroverts would disagree. Extroverts say that everyone should always be sociable, but that’s easy for them – it’s their personality type. They’re wired to be outgoing and they engage in social interactions all the time, but does that make everyone else wrong? Millions of people are losing their patience and really don’t want to be bothered. An easily identifiable, real-life scenario that gets people annoyed and fed up with the rest of the population is when someone talks on their cell phones so loudly that you can hear them at the next table in a restaurant.
If you find yourself relating to the frustrations of the 21st century, there is a name for this attitude: misanthropy. The definition, according to the Online Free Dictionary, is the general hatred, distrust, and disdain of the human species. A misanthropist is someone who actively applies these views to their everyday actions. To make this definition clearer, let’s define hate, which is strong dislike of something or somebody. If you hate everything and everybody in life, except your two best friends, this is a negative outlook.
Children and teens are more likely to use the definition of hate as their general view of life, school, and relationships. Teens are at a vulnerable age, and their extreme emotions are fueled by this outlook. They still need to learn how to recognize the different emotions they go through and how to properly express themselves. Teenage bullies usually have not been allowed to express their thoughts and emotions at home, so their anger and emotions are suppressed. Many teen bullies go through their everyday life with pent-up emotions, so they take out their anger and frustration on their victims.
Adults, on the other hand, are more able to identify their feelings and find help if they want it. When adults get annoyed they may also make statements like, “I hate everybody,” and choose not to communicate. The adult attitude looks more like annoyance, a less intense form of hate.
Making This Personal
When anger is left untreated and unmanaged, it controls the entire situation and affects everyone involved. Resentment occurs as a result of “I hate everyone” attitudes. When hate words are repeated over and over again, the anger grows even more. When anger isn’t identified and dealt with, it will inevitably result in negative reactions, violent behaviors, or bullying. Bullies try to control others because they can’t control themselves. So before anger and annoyance grow to this proportion, here are tips to manage and curb an angry attitude.
– Observe your own anger when it occurs. Are you handling it with harsh words or a raised voice that triggers an unacceptable response. Identify your emotions.
– Seek opportunities that are positive. Choose positive friends. You have a choice, and you can make the choices that work for you.
– Keep the benefits of practicing patience, tolerance, and acceptance in mind. Think positively so that negative attitudes won’t bring you down.
– Take some time out if negative emotions rise.
– Reframe the situation. A fresh perspective may cultivate a positive outlook and even compassion.
– Begin to recognize triggers and impulsive reactions during the day. Count to 10 before taking action.
– Repeat acceptable thoughts and actions. Repetition is necessary.
– Respond to anger and frustration with new behaviors.
– Find activities to release energy.
– Let spiritual guidance lead your choices.
Take one tip at a time; nobody’s perfect. These anger management tips will help improve your quality of life.
But “Why Does Everybody Hate Me?”
Now the tables have turned, but it’s still about you. The difference is you’re the one that everyone hates. People usually dislike those who are self-absorbed. Maybe you never pay people back or you brag about things you own all the time. Whatever the reason is, you should know that not all people will like you anyway. However, you should be objective and honest with yourself. If you think you have a trait that needs to be changed, you have to go ahead and change it.
If you feel that everyone hates you and things are getting worse, you may need to see a therapist. The idea of becoming a better person comes down to a choice: either you care enough about yourself to work on yourself or you can simply keep your current attitudes that people dislike.
For introverts and those who are seemingly angry and fed up with people in general, talking and smiling might be out of the question, and they see no reason to change. Young people of today are writing a new chapter or a new book. Their emotions are so repressed that social media is their only outlet.
A human being is only able to digest so much hate and negativity before they are completely inundated both in their emotions and in their outward behaviors. People who fall into this untreated anger have dim futures ahead, if they are not working toward healthy, stable lives. Both adults and young people caught in the “I hate everybody and everybody hates me” syndromes will only get more frustrated and angry if left untreated. They may turn to drugs and alcohol or other forms of self- medication, as teens become bullies. Everyone will be forced into different forms of violence to express these pent-up emotions.
You are not going to be liked by everyone no matter what you say or do, so stop worrying and just be the best person you can be and learn to feel comfortable in your own skin. Using a personal higher power is the best solution and so is finding satisfaction in your daily life.