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How to Stop Watching Porn in Three Steps

How to Stop Watching Porn

Not all people with unhealthy addictions will admit that they have a problem. However, if a person can recognise that they have a problem, it is important that they get the help they need to recover. Getting addicted to watching porn is a very real problem. This article will explain how to stop watching porn in three simple steps. Hopefully this will help those recovering from a porn addiction and ultimately guide them to stay away from porn for life.

 

Step 1: Admit that There Is a Problem

The first step in solving any problem is recognizing there is one. To quit watching porn, you need to admit to yourself that you are a porn addict. Do not feel bad about it. It might be frustrating to realize that you are enslaved by porn, but if you are here, reading this article, you are already on your way to recovery. How do you know if you enjoy porn as an occasional vice, or if you are already an addict? Here are a few ways to help you distinguish casual porn use from addiction:

 

  • Keep a record of the websites you frequently check. In modern life we spend a lot of our time connected to our smartphones, tablets, or laptops, browsing the Internet aimlessly or chatting with friends on social media. Since we are all online a lot it can be hard to recall how much time you spend on what. Pay special attention to how much time you spend on porn websites. If it is several hours a day then this is usually a reliable indicator that you may be addicted to pornography. There are many applications that can help to by tracking which websites you visit and for how long. If Google Chrome is your main browser then try this plug-in. Software like this is designed to help you to know if you spend too much time on any given website. It can also be used to block specific websites. You should also pay attention to the porn you consume when you are not online. Don’t cheat! If you buy pornographic magazines or watch videos offline then take note of this time too.

 

  • Although the porn industry can distort people’s ideas about sex, relationships and marriage, it is true that not everyone who watches porn will become addicted to it. The fine line between average porn consumption and addiction. If it is negatively affecting your life and you can’t stop then you are an addict.

 

  • If watching porn is interfering with the natural flow of your life then you have a problem. For example, if you have become unsociable, you decline invitations from friends and family members, you have started making excuses to get home as soon as possible just to nurture your addiction, then your probably are addicted to porn. If you have started planning your life around your porn addiction then it is time to intervene before it becomes even worse. If you are scared you are going to get caught at work, you no longer see your partner, or you even start losing precious hours of sleep, then this has already done enough damage to your life. In some extreme cases of porn addiction, people actually start missing meals. This level of disruption is a clear indicator of addiction.

 

Step 2: Decide to Quit and Take Action

Now that you have acknowledged that you do have a problem, it’s time to try to find a solution. This is the time to make a decision, not just to quit, but also to entirely change your mind-set. Once you fully comprehend the damage this addiction is bringing into your life and to your relationships, staying away from pornographic material should be easy. You will begin living as if porn doesn’t even exist. You start dismissing any urge instantly. You will move from day to day without trying hard to fight temptation because, to your new mind-set, the temptation doesn’t even exist. This is the mind-set you should be striving for, but how do you get there? Here are some action points to help you:

 

  • Most porn addicts watch porn when they are home on their own. The first thing to do would be to move your computer to the living room, where any of your family members might come at any given moment. This should stop you from accessing your pornographic material. You can also take matters further and modify your local server to block porn websites.

 

  • Make a decision to quit and actually follow through with it. Don’t procrastinate. Don’t try to minimize your consumption at first. Cut if off completely. Going cold turkey is the best way to end porn addiction. Remind yourself of the consequences of watching porn: Porn puts too much pressure on your relationship with your spouse. Most porn addicts find little sexual gratification in normal relationships with their spouses and start looking for other exciting ways to fulfil their needs. Don’t get pulled into the pre-porn excitement and forget how you are going to feel after viewing porn. You are going to feel exhausted, disappointed, ashamed, and disgusted if you break your commitment to stop watching pornography.

 

  • Keep yourself busy. People watch porn as a form of escapism. Sadly the very thing they escape to eventually becomes the thing they want to escape from. When you are tempted to watch porn, close your eyes for twenty minutes and try to relax, have a bath, or go for a walk. Exercise is also a great way to keep your schedule busy and your mood elevated. Avoid spending time alone and seize this chance to invest in your relationships. Identify you porn danger times – times you are likely to succumb to your desires – and make plans so that you’ll be busy during these high risk periods. For example, if you used to watch porn after a long and exhausting work-week, plan to go to the gym and then arrange to meet up with your friends. The more you make the conscious decision to walk away from porn, the easier it becomes to quit.

 

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Step 3: Seek the Help of a Professional Counsellor

No one would be too excited to come out and declare to the world: “I think I am addicted to porn!” However, if  you have already tried quitting on your own and the situation has become too dire then seeking professional help might be exactly what you need. Therapists that specialize in treating problematic sexual behaviour can help you overcome your feelings of guilt, shame, and low-self esteem. If you feel ashamed of your addiction, remind yourself that things could actually get worse. Levels of risk taking usually signify the strength of a person’s addiction. As your addiction grows stronger, you start risking more and more things. Risk-taking activities could include skipping school or work. When the situation becomes worse, some individuals might become interested in engaging in sexual abuse. This addiction could lead people to loss of employment, marital problems and divorce, family disruptions, and even violent tendencies.

This is the time to be harsh on yourself, so strictly follow the advice of your therapist. It’s also important to note that this addiction doesn’t only affect you as a person; it affects your spouse as well. In light of this fact, your spouse’s involvement in therapy can help them deal with any emotional trauma your addiction might have caused them. Their participation isn’t only beneficial for them, but it can also help you in your healing process.

In addition to all of the above, porn is a major money waster. It swallows up your money, your sexuality, and eventually your entire life. Educate yourself on the oppression and corruption that take place in the pornographic industry. Doing this will definitely help you resist the urge to watch porn.

When you finally succeed in ridding yourself of porn addiction, your life will improve as a result.. You will feel that you finally have your mind back and that you can respect yourself again. Of course the very best way to combat porn addiction is to never start it in the first place. However, if you have a problem already, there is no better time to start fixing it than right now.

What about your children? Are you scared they might be accessing pornographic material? Here’s how to block pornographic websites from them.

 

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3 Comments

  • Naseer Khan
    Jun 13, 2015 at 08:58 pm

    a very very good article i have ever read on this topic. keep it up.

  • Gopi Praveen
    Mar 13, 2016 at 06:33 am

    Tanks

  • Amin
    Jun 28, 2017 at 08:29 am

    thank you so much. I start fighting right now…

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