Are there any ideal families? This is a great question to ask, and in all honesty one can easily answer such question by saying that there are no ideal families and no family is without some form of family problems. Nevertheless some families have much better relationships than others. The fact of the matter is that from time to time all families experience different types of family problems. Even in families that seem very normal and healthy, family problems can result from different issues some of the issues may appear simple in nature, but if unaddressed could lead to more serious problems down the road. Some of the issues within family members may be described as communication related, but other more serious family problems also could be present. This article discusses family problems and ways to solve them.
Families often bond with other family members. Such bonding often means that each family member relies on one another for all kinds of support. Many people draw inspiration, love, strength and motivation from their family members. Most families are devastated when family problems interfere with the normal day to day relationships with other family members. Once family bond and cohesion is broken frustration, stress and anger sets in and ultimately impacts every member of the family. Issues such as that, if unresolved could develop into more serious family issues and blended family problems.
List of family problems
Bereavement-Death of a family member at times results in all kinds of family problems, particularly if the dead family member, is the sole income earner for the family. The loss of a family member could be devastating to other family members not just the older adults, but also on the young who may not fully understand what happened and how to deal with such loss. Other complicated emotional problems could result from bereavement issues following the loss of a family member.
Money Matters– Money like no other issue is perhaps the number one problem facing many families. Some family problems originate from lack of enough financial resources, but sometimes even when families have enough money, other problems may also originate from what things should money be spent on. Family businesses can sometimes generate problems for the entire family. When all members of the family are part of the business often such situation leads to complicated financial relationship among family members.
Drug Abuse-Alcoholism and drug abuse are serious sources of family problems. Often when people are under the influence of drugs or other mind altering substances, they engage in strange acts which may cause serious problems for the family. Substance abuse and dependency do indeed cause problems for many families.
Issues related to Personal Behavior-Other behavioral issues may threaten families in one way or the other. Behavioral problems could also result from other emotional problems which may not be connected to alcohol or drug dependency. For instance when a spouse engages in cheating behavior pattern, it could lead to serious problems for the family.
Academic problems-Young family members may have academic problems from school which may result in unhappiness and sadness for some family members. At times the school problem may not be academic in nature. Such problem could also result from behavioral issues which need to be addressed by other family members. Bullying in schools often leads to unhappiness of the person being bullied, which in turn could lead to other family problems at home.
Issues related to mental health-Mental health is one major cause of family problems. Such issues obviously demand professional help. Often family members seem to be in denial about family member’s mental health condition and may not seek medical assistance over such problem in a timely manner.
Divorce and Separation problems– Divorce and separation matters often pose serious problems for the whole family and not just for the spouses. Children are often devastated when mother and father are separated or in divorce courts.
Illness– Other health problems can lead to serious problems for the family. If the ailing family member is the sole source of financial support, the family may also experience financial issues as well.
How to solve Family problems
There is no single method and approach set out for addressing and resolving all kinds of family problems. Each problem demands a different approach and solution. Some of the methods may require professional help and in some cases families can take certain measures first to try and work things out through discussing matters among themselves. One approach which is often not utilized to the extent that it should in addressing family problems, is the issue of increasing Communications among all family members.
Role of Communications
Better communications among family members generally leads to better family relationships and ability to get along. According to experts, effective communications among family members will go a long way in addressing common family problems. Rick Peterson Specialist and Assistant Professor, Department of Human Development at Virginia Tech suggests that “Effective communication is an important characteristic of strong, healthy families. Research identifies communication as an essential building block of strong marital, parent-child, and sibling relationships” The point here is that through strong family communications many issues that eventually develop into real family problems could be addressed before they become a family problem. It is therefore strongly recommended that families try to increase communications among themselves. Through open communications family members build more thrust on one another, which is an important component of better family bonding.
Some more serious family problems which are not related to break down in communications among the family could only be handled through therapy. Family therapists get involved in more serious family problems through organizing family- group therapy sessions. Depending on the situation and circumstance individual therapies may be required also after group sessions. The purpose of Family therapy sessions is to get family members to start the process of collaborating with one another to address family issues. Prominent among some of the issues often addressed through family group therapies is the issue of communication. Through family therapies, family members are once again coached by the therapist to learn how to better understand other family members.