Sometimes, you find your child crying for what seems to be no reason whatsoever. For most children who tear up easily it could be that they are very sensitive and tender-hearted. For others, there are outside forces causing these children to cry.
In fact, when you see your child crying, chances are it is not a spur of the moment sobbing outburst. Something has happened during the day or week that has caused a buildup of emotions inside your child. His or her spontaneous crying is a coping mechanism and their way of releasing emotions.
Children and Crying
According to a report by Psychology Today, crying is “a normal response to being overwhelmed by strong feelings.” Since infancy, we all have used crying as a reaction to distress or as a means of signaling others we may be in need of help.
Babies cry to alert their caretaker that they are in pain, hungry or suffering from separation anxiety from their parent. These are the most common reasons for babies to cry. Around the age of two, children are able to use their words to signal for help, but the need to cry still exists, especially during stressful and traumatic situations.
Why do we cry?
For each individual, there are different things that make us cry. Factors that cause us to shed some tears include how emotional we are and what we are passionate about. How well we handle stressful situations and pain tolerance levels also factor in to how easily one person may cry when compared to another person.
Here are some of the top reasons why someone may break down and cry:
- Anticipation of pain – such as a shot from the doctor
- Disappointment – such as when a play date with a friend has been canceled
- Emotional pain – such as being rejected by peers
- Sadness – sometimes occurs when watching a movie
- Physical injury – such as broken bones or other injuries
- Depression – such as feeling alone or feeling like there is nowhere to turn
- Difficulties – such as trouble learning in school or having an issue with a school project
- Loss – such as losing at a sporting event or other activity
Complications of frequent crying
There are many reasons why a parent needs to get to the bottom of what is causing their child to cry all of the time. The biggest reason is because children to appear to be more emotional tend to get picked on and bullied more by others at school, on the playground and throughout the community. Though it is not right, helping your child curb their need to cry will help lessen the chances of becoming the target of a bully.
Also, children to spend a lot of time crying, often miss out on school activities, play time and other activities they would love to be a part of. However, they are not able to because they are too busy crying at home or avoid doing these things for fear they will start crying in front of their peers. The last thing a child wants is to start tearing up in front of friends and classmates.
Tips for dealing with a crying child
In addition to trying to get to the bottom of what is wrong and why your child always wants to cry, there are some things you can teach your child to help prevent their need to get emotional in public.
- Breathing – teach your child how to breathe deeply and take long breaths through the nose and out the mouth
- Count down – have your child count down from ten to zero or maybe do some mental math facts to help distract his or her mind from the situation
- Walk away – teach your child that it is okay to walk away and go to the bathroom or get a drink of water
- Self-comfort – this is when the child crosses his or her arms, giving a slight self-hug and say “I can get through this” in their mind
Also, work with your child to ask themselves “Why must I cry?” If the child knows the reason why the feel like they are going to cry, they might be less likely to cry on the spot in front of friends and others.
Do you need to cry?
If you have not cried or teared up in a while, it might do you some good to sit down and cry. This will help release all of the negative emotions in your body and will help relieve your mind of any stress you have pent up inside your head. Here are some tips on how to have a good cry, which you can use yourself or teach your child to do in the comfort of your own home:
- Grab a good box of tissues
- Focus on what has been stressing you out
- Do not hold it in
- Cry until you are done – this can be a few seconds to a minute or two, but do not draw it out
- Cry with a friend if needed
For most parents, it is difficult to see their child crying. Especially when they do not know the reason behind this emotional outburst. The best thing to do is calm the child down and talk about what it is that is truly bothering the child. Get your child to express their feelings in words and assure them that their emotions are okay. Work together for a solution on how to stop crying frequently.