It is normal to feel overwhelmed and stressed out after receiving a cancer diagnosis. At some point in everyone’s lives, he or she will have an encounter with cancer, whether it is directly via a cancer diagnosis or indirectly through someone they know and love being diagnosed with the disease. Throughout the treatments and as the stages progress, you may find yourself having trouble sleeping, your head hurts, your body aches, and you have an overall exhausted feeling. Coping with cancer also entails coping with the fear and the stress that is associated with cancer. Supportive care, counseling, and education will all help you to better deal with the diagnosis and treatment of your cancer. Here are a few ways to learn how to cope with terminal cancer.
Embrace Good Will and Love of Others
Many people say that love can be the most powerful drug on the planet; this is also true when coping with cancer diagnosis. The key to success in any endurance-type event, like cancer, is having a strong support network backing you up. A common sight to see for cancer victims is to see his or her group of friends, the support network, have all shaved their heads to show solidarity for their friend’s battle with cancer. This is just one example of how to embrace the good will and love that others give to you during times of hardship. Try to have a positive outlook on life and the future even though things may be the darkest they have ever been for you. Try not pushing your family or friends away in these hard times, they are just trying to help and make you feel better.
Even when the odds are not in your favor, you must never give up hope. Sometimes believing that you can succeed, that you will triumph over adversity requires some self-delusion and pig-headed conviction. You must refuse to let your mind drift to a place of thinking that you cannot fight anymore, that you will be defeated by this ailment. Always know that you have a fighting chance, as long as you believe in yourself, to pull through this disease and conquer it. It will be hard for anyone to believe in you if you do not believe in yourself, as is the same for many other aspects of life. If you do not believe in your artwork, it will probably not sell. If you do not believe in your team to win, then your team will probably lose. If you believe that you can beat cancer, then you can beat cancer.
Mind Over Matter
The human spirit has a tenacity unlike any other, and along with your spirit, they are both ultimately more powerful than the human body. In order to stay triumphant over cancer, it is important to have your mindset in the right place. If you think that you cannot make it through these difficult times, then your mind is not over your matter. When you are completely beaten down and hopeless about what the future could potentially hold, that is when you must rally as much of your inner strength as possible to keep pushing on. Even when diagnosed with terminal cancer, you still have the rest of your life to live. Try and accomplish as many things as you can, activities that you have always wanted to do but never could.
Stay in the Present
There are many different ways on to cope with the different kinds of cancer. Unfortunately, many people coping with terminal cancer along with chemotherapy go through each stage of the cycle on day at a time, dealing with hardships that healthy people could not even imagine. It is important to continually give 110% no matter what. While it might be hard, giving the process your all will result in the best outcome for you. Try to create zen-like state of confidence and calmness in times of stress or doubt. Stay focused on the chemotherapy and the task at hand. Do not think about what could happen in the future. All that should matter now is the healing process and getting better for your sake and for the sake of your family and friends.
Personifying an obstacle that you face is a useful method of overcoming some challenges. Talking or cursing at it, while not scientifically proven to work will definitely help to visualize the disease as a tangible enemy that you can beat up. What you are doing is essentially “bullying” the cancer by calling it derogatory monikers. When trash talking cancer, use as many expletives and curse words as possible, even if you do not particularly enjoy uttering swear words, try cursing silently as many times as possible inside your own inner-dialogue just to see if it helps you. This is a method that can be seen through any media that depicts cancer patients undergoing chemotherapy. Learning how to cope with cancer is not always going to be easy and you have to find a healthy outlet.
Decide to be Happy
Realize the difference that your attitude makes when dealing with cancer treatments. If you realize that you have to make the CHOICE to look on the bright side rather than to be in a constant state of complete and utter despair, then your chances of success when undergoing chemotherapy will vastly improve. It is easy to understand why some cancer patients stop attending his or her chemotherapy sessions half way through them because of how difficult the sessions can be to bear, but it is important not to give up and continue fighting. Staying positive, being relaxed, and not letting the little things get to you are all part of enduring and overcoming this disease.
Don’t Hold Things In, Release Them
In life, you have a choice to make when it comes to how you want to respond to something. Either you are going to laugh about what just happened or you are going to cry about it, so why not laugh? Understandably, having a sense of humor is not always possible, but the moment that you are presented with an opportunity to enjoy some laughter and levity, seize that moment. It has been said that laughter is considered to be the best antidote or remedy to any ailment. While this may not be a medically true statement, laughter helps ease the pain, stress, and sorrow that many cancer victims suffer regularly. This is one of the main reasons why having a solid group of friends and loved ones to support you is critical to staying positive and a step ahead of this horrible disease.
Pain is an Illusion
Some people say that there is a certain “theory of relativity” that someone gains when they have experienced some extreme level of trauma or physical pain that takes over every morsel of your being. Once you have experienced this level of pain and suffering that was once thought to be unimaginable, it makes the pains of the past that used to hurt seem like nothing; like something completely insignificant. The chemical warfare that your body undergoes during chemotherapy, being poisoned, is indescribable. This level of pain creates a new perspective to healthy people of how lucky they are they are not sick or in pain. You begin to appreciate the little things in life that you may have once taken for granted and furthermore realize how amazing and beautiful life is. Some chemo patients say that after the chemotherapy treatments, their bodies bounce back and they return to the land of the living.
Life with cancer does not have to be dark and full of sorrow, the most important step that one can take is to seek immediate help if you begin to feel that you are not able to cope with the cancer or the treatments. Taking early action will help to enable you to deal with and understand many of the effects of your illness, while learning to manage your stress can help you to maintain a positive emotional, spiritual, and physical outlook on life. The sadness and pain surrounding cancer overwhelms us all at various points in our lives and everyone has meltdowns. The emotions will come and go as if in waves. A lot can be observed and learned about true inner strength and power when talking to a cancer survivor. They are some of the strongest people on Earth, both physically and mentally. For people trying to help a friend or family member that has been diagnosed with cancer, it is important to remember that some day, the gravity of the person’s situation seems so ominous and dark that any advice they receive just seems to come off trite or offensive. But at other times on different days, that same advice can be taken as extremely helpful and can get that person through some pretty hard times.