The Teen Bully

If you have to ask the question: Why is bullying wrong? Then you have not been paying close attention to the news, movies, television shows and what is happening in your own community. Reports of bullying are coming in from the playgrounds and hallways in local schools, at some places of work and in our neighborhoods. Whether we want to believe it or not, bully can and does affect everyone in the community.

Effects of bullying

According to the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services, bullying affects everyone, including those who are being bullied, those who are doing the bullying and those who witness it. There are many negative outcomes associated with bullying, including major impacts in mental health, drug and alcohol abuse and in extreme cases, suicide.Effects of bullying on those who are being bullied include:

Those who bully others are prone to suffering from:

There are many reasons why bullying is wrong, including the fact that these heinous acts affect more than just those directly involved – the bully and the one being bullied. Bullying can affect innocent bystanders who witness these acts. Bystanders are prone to experience:

  • Increased use of tobacco, alcohol and drugs
  • Suffer from mental health problems such as depression and anxiety
  • Social withdrawal
  • Poor grades and continued absences from school

Long term consequences

Just because the bully actions have been stopped it does not mean that the effects of bullying have gone away. When someone has been bullied the physical effects of bullyingNegative Body Image may disappear, however, the emotional consequences can last for several years to come. If not a lifetime.According to the American Academy of Experts in Traumatic Stress, bullying on the playground can cause severe damage to the victim’s self confidence. This is because the bully aims to instill fear and self-loathing in the victim through repetitive acts suggesting the victim is undesirable, incapable and ineffective as a human being.Long-term consequences of bullying include:

  • Failure to complete secondary education
  • Reduced occupational opportunities
  • Lingering feelings of anger and bitterness
  • Desire to seek revenge
  • Fear of social situations
  • Social withdrawal
  • Perceptive of being an easy victim
  • Self-esteem issues
  • Continuance of being bullied as an adult

When jokes go wrong

Sometimes jokes seem funnier mostly because they are loosely based on the truth or how someone perceives another person. In most cases, harassment and bullying is the result of an innocent prank gone wrong. Because it is so easy to pick on someone based on something you see as true does not mean it is okay to do so.If the bully gets away with the prank once, chances are the behavior of poking fun at another will continue. Mostly because others laugh and the bully sees a “playful” reaction is received from the victim who laughs it off too. However, the prank may be funny to everyone the first time it happens, but once this behavior is repeated it is no longer funny to everyone.

Because it is so easy to pick on someone based on something you see as true does not mean it is okay to do so

Facts proving why it is wrong

If reading the consequences associated with bullying does not prove why bullying is wrong, maybe some facts provided by DoSomething.org will help prove why it is wrong.

  • More than 3.2 million students fall victim to bullying every year
  • Around 160,000 teens skip school every day to avoid their bully
  • 17 percent of students in America have reported being bullied at least two to three times per month
  • One in four teachers see nothing wrong with bullying
  • Of those who see nothing wrong with bullying, will intervene only four percent of the time
  • By the age of 14, less than 30 percent of boys and less than 40 percent of girls have talked to their peers about the consequences of bullying
  • More than 67 percent of students feel schools respond poorly to bullying
  • 71 percent of students have reported bullying incidents as a problem at their school
  • 90 percent of students in grades 4 through 8 have reported being bullied at school
  • 1 in ten students drop out of school due to bullying
  • Physical abuse is more common in middle schools, while verbal abuse occurs in all grade levels

Lessen the impact

When seeking answers to the question: “Why is bullying wrong?” We discover all of the reasons why it is wrong and how these actions impact the community as a whole. However, not many fully understand how to take actions and stop bullying from occurring. Here are some of the top things you can do to help prevent bullying from starting in the beginning:

Whether you are dealing with a playground bully or a bully elsewhere in your community, there are many consequences that affect everyone involved. So to answer the question: “Why is bullying wrong?” There is no one answer. Everything about these heinous acts are wrong and we as a community need to band together to stop these acts from happening and improve the overall well-being of the community.

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