Bullied Teen

Even though bullying has been around for many years and isn’t likely to end any time soon, it isn’t something that should be ignored. The more people who learn how to handle bullying, the less of an impact it will have on everyone, especially those who are often the victims of bullying. The problem with many bullying situations is too many people are unwilling to step up and take action against the person who is performing the bullying actions. Learn how to handle bullying now!

How to Handle Bullying: Understanding Bullies

One of the most important steps in learning to handle bullying in a proper manner is to understand how bullies operate and why they do what they do. In most cases, bullies are people who aren’t feeling confident in themselves and feel they must make others feel bad in an attempt to make themselves feel better. Some people who take part in bullying behavior are suffering from emotional or mental issues, while others simply crave the feeling of power this type of behavior provides. When you learn how bullies operate, you will be better able to handle the problem.

How to Handle Bullying: Stick Together

Bullies seem to pick on the people who spend a lot of time alone or don’t seem to have many friends. Therefore, it is often extremely effective for those who are susceptible to become victims of bullying behavior to find at least one other person to spend time with. If you are going to be exposed to a bully or the area in which the bully typically hangs out, it is important to make sure someone else is with you so you don’t have to worry about bullying behavior. In many cases, when bullies see their typical victim is with someone else, they will avoid the behavior.

How to Handle Bullying: Act with Confidence

There is good reason why the people who are perceived to be weak are the ones who are typically targeted by bullies. Those who are shy and don’t look as though they are confident in themselves are most likely to become the victims of bullies. Even if you aren’t feeling confident in a specific situation, it is important to at least act like you are so you don’t attract attention to yourself. Simply acting as though you are confident is often enough to deter bullying behavior.

How to Handle Bullying: Stand up for Yourself and Others

In many cases, the bullies are looking for victims who aren’t likely to fight back against them. Therefore, it is important for children to learn to stand up for themselves when they are faced with the behavior of a bully. When children speak up for what is right and let the bully know they aren’t going to be allow a bully to treat them this way, it is more likely to have a positive impact on how the bully treats them from that point forward. However, children shouldn’t limit this action to bullying behavior against themselves only. Children need to learn to stand up for other people who are being bullied who haven’t learned to stand up for themselves. When bullies realize the bystanders aren’t going to allow them to treat someone else in that manner, they are more likely to stop the behavior than attempt to continue it.

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How to Handle Bullying: Talk to a Trusted Adult

A failure to report bullying is one of the reasons why the behavior has grown out of control. Children are programmed to think they are tattling when they tell an adult what another child is doing to them. However, when someone is hurting another person, whether it is physically or with words, it is important to talk to an adult about what is going on so that adult can step in and curb the behavior. If you aren’t willing to let an adult know what is going on, the problem is not going to be resolved. Instead, it is more likely to escalate.

How to Handle Bullying: Treat Everyone with Respect

Most people are familiar with the golden rule and how they should treat everyone with the same respect with which they would like to be treated. This includes the person who is doing the bullying. It may seem like a stretch to befriend the bully, but if you think about it, bullies are acting out because of their own lack of confidence and security. The bully may not be receptive to friendly advances, at least at first, but as time goes on, many bullies recognize it is more fun to be friends with others rather than trying to assert themselves as a force to be reckoned with.

How to Handle Bullying: Determine Clear Boundaries

In many cases, people teach other people how to treat them. For instance, if you allow people to make unreasonable requests of you and you continue to do what they say, they will continue to tell you what to do. If you don’t tell a bully that you don’t appreciate the way he is treating you or talking to you, how can you expect him to learn how to treat you the way you want to be treated. When you assert yourself and let a bully know that it is not okay to talk to you in that manner, you are letting him know you won’t stand for that type of behavior.

How to Handle Bullying: Keep Emotions to a Minimum

Bullies thrive on the reactions they get out of their victims. If you react by crying or experiencing some other emotional response, you are giving the bully the satisfaction of knowing they have had an effect on you and the way you feel. This helps them feel better about their own situation and is exactly what they are looking for. The more emotional responses they receive, the more likely they are to continue their behavior. Even if what they say or do hurts your feelings, it is important to keep your emotions guarded, at least until you are out of the range of the bully. When a bully gets no reaction, he is more likely to give up on the behavior.

How to Handle Bullying: Fight Back Correctly

Many kids who are bullied often turn into bullies themselves. This is because they want to feel the same sense of power as the bully experienced. However, this is not the right way to fight back against the bully. You can fight back by setting your boundaries and walking away from the behavior, but you should not turn to bullying behavior in retaliation. Just because someone else has done these things to you doesn’t give you the license to do it back to the bully or against other kids to make yourself feel better.

Bullies thrive on the reactions they get out of their victims.

How to Handle Bullying: Report Online Bullying

Cyberbullyng is quite similar to bullying, but it takes place online instead. While it is a different kind of bullying, kids need to learn how to handle bullying online as well. This type of behavior can be handled in much the same way as bullying in real life, speaking out against the behavior and ignoring the bullies, it should also be reported to the proper authorities. Many online websites, especially those that are designed for kids, have strong anti-bullying policies. Everyone should read these policies before they use these sites so they know exactly how to handle any bullying behavior they may encounter while using the site. Properly reporting the behavior can put a stop to it by talking to policy violators or even banning them from the site.

How to Handle Bullying: Avoid Bullies

It may seem that avoiding the bullies is allowing them to win. While this is true in a sense, it is also an effective way to handle the bullying behavior. When bullies do not have anyone to bully, they cannot continue to behave in this manner. If you know of a place where the bullies typically hang out or where problems often occur, it is best to simply avoid spending time in these areas. In some situations, you may still need to go through these areas. Taking a trusted adult or a friend or two is the best way to make sure you are safe when you have to be anywhere near the places bullies hang out.

How to Handle Bullying: Simply Walk Away

It seems like such a simple thing, but it is one of the most effective things you can do. If you are the victim of bullying, it is okay to completely walk away from the situation. This is the perfect solution for children who aren’t comfortable standing up for themselves in a bullying situation. When you are able to remove yourself from the situation, you are better able to put a stop to the behavior. If you do choose to walk away, though, it is important to realize the bully may try a few more times before he finally gives up on treating you in this manner. Once you walk away enough times, the behavior will end.

Bullying has become such a major problems in schools and many other areas of life. Children are likely to encounter some type of bully throughout their lives, even in the workplace when they are grown up. Therefore, it is extremely important for children to learn exactly how to handle bullying. The better equipped children are to handle bullying behavior from a young age, the easier it will be to handle issues as they get older. No matter how old you get, it is never too late to play a role in the eradication of bullies and their negative behavior toward other people.

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