It’s an old action: bullying. Stress in the household, children who are neglected and young people who believe they are more important are the biggest offenders when it comes to bullying but they are not the only ones who do it. A child’s best friend may be a bully without even knowing it! Learn about the possible Bullying Scenarios Now!
Bullying is any action that is taken to harm another person, either mentally, emotionally or physically. People who tease other people may think they are funny but they may be causing irreparable harm to the child who they are teasing. It is not just the child who punches another for their lunch money, any more. Bullying scenarios for kids can be easy to detect or they can be more subtle and less clear.
Bullying Scenarios #1 Obvious: A child goes up to another child and grabs him by the shirt. He then forces the child to give him his lunch, his money, do his homework, or other action with the threat he will be hurt if he does not. This is physical bullying and is easiest to determine. One child should not put their hands on another child and threaten their well-being.
Bullying Scenarios #2 Clear but not as obvious: A child is not as good at something as her peers. She has trouble jumping rope, or playing hopscotch, or he cannot catch a ball well. Another child shouts out to that child “Can’t you do anything?” or begins to make up songs that spotlight the inability. This kind of remark is mean-spirited and is emotional bullying.
Bullying Scenarios #3 Difficult to detect: Children are playing in a group. Little Suzie is sitting alone because the other girls won’t play with her. In Suzie’s mind the teachers are not doing anything to make things better so she changes how she thinks about things as she sits by herself. Suzie begins to withdraw into her own little world (Siegle, 2010). This is mental and psychological bullying and used to be the most dangerous of the bullying scenarios.
Then Bullying Scenarios emerged to the Internet and social networking…
Cyber bullying scenarios. A child is on YouTube and they see a video created by classmates who are spreading rumors about other students. The child who discovered the video does not report it; instead he thinks it is entertaining and shares it on Facebook (Siegle, 2010). The children who are mentioned in the YouTube video get harassed by others in school and on social networking. One of these children finds the video and views it. She then takes her own life because of the continuous teasing and ostracizing both in person and on the Internet.
Another girl is online and she gets a message from a boy she likes. The boy sets up a rendezvous. The girl, excited, goes to the rendezvous place. He is not there, and does not show up. The next day there are pictures posed on Instagram showing the “pathetic girl waiting for the boy who never came.” She sees the pictures and becomes distraught. She cannot stop crying. Everyone laughs at her for being so “pathetic.” The boy did not invite her, but other girls did to be mean to her.
What is Bullying?
Thirty years ago “Sticks and stones” was the way to empower a child against bullying. The world has changed since then and new methods are being tried to combat a very old practice. Research has given cause of dominance in bullying behaviors to the media and the methods by which they report negative behavior and how this has translated to laws that may be an overreaction of the behavior and actually exacerbate the negative behavior (Wayne, 2013). Are we at fault for the growing number of bullies? Wayne (2013) suggests that we may be.
What Constitutes Bully Behavior?
Bully behavior is consistent and unyielding negative behavior that is directed toward another person. It can be insulting, ridiculing or physical in nature, but the key is that the behavior should only be considered bullying if it occurs more than once or twice. Persistence in behavior used to be a key indicative factor, but it has changed with media frenzies over what they report as inaction by legislators (Wayne, 2013). Instead, if one child tells another child that they wear torn clothes to school just once, that can be construed to be bullying in the new “zero tolerance” world that has come from media outrage and celebrity outcry.
Some negatively charged behavior, that which is not persistent, should not be considered bullying (Seigle, 2010). Strength of social skills needs the integration of negative influence as well as positive influence. If children are sheltered from all forms of negative behavior they do not learn how to cope with such behaviors as they come across them in adulthood (Nansel, et al. 2008).
As bullying is an imbalance of power, creating a mentally and physically stronger group of children may help to reduce the amount of bullying. As long as the education in empowerment does not shift the balance of power in another direction, this method should help to rid bullies of their power over others (Nansel, et al., 2008).
Lady Gaga, a world-renowned musical artist, was bullied as a child. She admits that she still remembers those cruel actions against her and, although they have not halted her as a celebrity, they are definitely a part of her life and her memories. She has started a foundation to help both bullies and the bullied by trying to instill kindness and tolerance for everyone, rather than punish the offenders: Born to Not Get Bullied (Kristof, 2012).
The solutions to bullying are not straightforward because not all bullies are the same. Some bullies need to be educated that their behavior is harmful. Others need counseling or therapy to help them overcome their own shortcomings. Others, still, need to be able to accept others as though they are equal although different. One single legislative approach will not eliminate or reduce bullying because a cookie-cutter approach that is dictated by hysteria will not work to alleviate all children’s behavior.