Recently, ChadMichael Morrisette was contacted on Facebook by one of his former bullies asking for forgiveness.
How many of us have spent sad long nights fantasizing about this? The day when someone who has hurt us finally realizes the weight of his actions and comes back to apologize and plead forgiveness. For Morrisette, this moment came 20 years later, probably a while after he forgot how much he deserved it. In a Facebook message, Louie Amundson, one of Morrisette’s former bullies attempted to make amends and seek forgiveness for his past follies. The message also included the reason Amundson has taken this step.
Apparently, Amundson’s 10-year old daughter has asked him if he were ever a bully in his younger years. He replied that he was, and the repercussions of such confession reminded him that he owed someone an apology. Here is the content of Amundson’s message:
“Hey Chad. I was recently talking with my 10 year old daughter about bullies. She asked me if I ever bullied anyone and sadly I had to say “yes”. What came to mind is how […] and mean I was to you when we were in Jr. High I wan to apologize. If we lived in the same state I would apologize to your face. I don’t even know if you remember but I do and I am sorry.”
Morrisette was so moved he says he “cried a little.” Obviously, the apology reminded him of bad times long-forgotten and it “unlocked” something in him he didn’t even know he was still holding onto.
Chad decided to let bygones be bygones. He informed Amundson that all was forgiven, and that in the time frame of 20 years, he was the only one to approach him to apologize for the bullying. He commented on how the years must have changed them. He also encouraged him to stand up to bullying whenever he sees it. Here is an excerpt of Morrisette’s message:
“I hope you can proudly tell your daughter that you have also apologized for it, and that we are good. It’s amazing what 20 years and children can do to us, no? Thank you again.”
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Amundson appreciated the acceptance of his apology so much; he informs Chad,” your forgiveness means more than you know.” Being the aggressor, Amunderson recognized he owed Chad the apology, while the latter didn’t owe him the acceptance. Morrisette was the bigger man to choose to forgive so kindly.
The message exchange between the former classmates is both heartwarming and encouraging. Sometimes, people do actually change. They grow up and learn and understand to empathize and relate. Their younger selves repulse them and they can no longer justify their past misdeeds. It’s certain that we won’t all get the gratification of a long-waited-for apology. But rest assured life has probably taught them the lessons that need to be taught.
Now, Morrisette is a visual designer and a brand consultant in West Hollywood. His bullying experience, though painful, has left him with more strengths than weaknesses. Do you have a similar story?
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About the author:
Sahar Medhat is an aspiring Egyptian writer with a degree in English and a passion for saving the world. She loves psychology, philosophy, intriguing cosmic mysteries, and putting long thoughts into pretty words. You can find her on her personal blog here; she’d love a message!