Anti Bullying Guidelines Parents Need To Share With Their Child
Bullying includes many different behaviors to those being bullied as well as those who are doing the bullying. It is important to note that some victims of bullying will not show outward signs of being bullied due to embarrassment, helplessness or a fear of repercussion. The victim may perceive a teacher, counselor, principal, coach, classmate, parent, step parent, family member, clergy or neighbor as being a bully. If you suspect someone is a victim, it is crucial to try to get them to talk to someone they can trust.
Anti Bullying Guidelines: Characteristics
Characteristics of a bully include physical or verbal fights, aggressive behavior, a sudden gain in personal belongings and/or money, making threats, blaming others for words or actions. Oftentimes the bully will not accept responsibility for his/her behavior. Bullies often think in terms of “I”; they worry about their social status. These individuals seek to control as they are immature and lack the ability to show compassion for animals and humans.
Characteristics of a person being victimized by a bully include loss of appetite, loss of sleep, headaches, faking illness, loss of interest, loss of friends, loss of personal possessions or money, unexplained injuries and self-destructive behaviors including suicide. Those who are victimized are oftentimes perceived to have low self-esteem or are not popular.
Bystanders are those who witness bullying. These individuals may or may not report the behavior, stand up to the behavior or support the victim that is targeted.
Anti Bullying Guidelines: Cyber bullying
iPhones, iPads and computers can be used to cyberbully. Cyberbullying includes posting photos, negative comments, harassment, stalking or threats being made online or on a phone. Social media, gaming rooms, texts, chat rooms, instant messaging programs and even email programs are used to bully a person. Technology can allow a bully to remain anonymous while targeting a person. Tell your child to not respond to the cyberbully, change their username and report all bullying to the website owner(s).
Anti Bullying Guidelines: Teaching Your Child To Not Tolerate Bullying
As adults, we know that bullying or being bullied is unacceptable. We need to express and model this behavior to our children and teens. We also need to let our children know there are consequences for bullying.
Communicate with your children often about their lives, friends and goals. Keep the lines of communication open. Let your child know they are worthy of a happy life free of additional stress brought on by a bully or group of bullies.
Teach your child to be more than a bystander. Have your child get an adult involved immediately to help the victim get away from the bully. Tell them it’s okay to call 911 for serious bullying issues.
Activities/Role-Play For Parents And Younger Children:
- Explain what bullying is. Give your child clear examples of bullying situations. Ask the child how they would feel if they were the one being bullied after each example.
- Explain how to safely stand up to bullying. Give examples of how to support the person being victimized by the bully. Ask them if they feel strong enough to do each support exercise in public if needed.
- Explain where and how to get help. Tell your child it’s okay to get the nearest person or group of people they trust involved immediately. Have them turn to a nearby adult aware of the role-play to intervene.
Anti Bullying Guidelines: Parental Assistance To Establish Anti Bullying Guidelines
- Advocate. Have prevention policies put in place in your community to assist anyone who feels victimized or knows of someone who is.
- Raise Awareness. Involve community members by using local town hall meetings, church meetings and school meetings to discuss bullying.
- Educate. Teach (or have an officer of the law teach) community members what behaviors to look for and how to safely stand against bullying.
- Partner for Anti Bullying Guidelines to be established. Law enforcement, youth groups, faith groups, social groups and schools can all be platforms to partner with parents for support and emotional assistance.