Workplace Bullying

Workplace Bullying

Workplace Bullying Guide

It’s not only school children who get bullied. People of all ages find bullies in all walks of life, including the workplace. Being bullied at a job by co-workers is not normal. How can you tell if you are being bullied at work?

Here are some signs of Workplace Bullying to look out for:

  • Verbal abuse such as insults to your race, gender, sexual orientation, religion or just about anything else
  • Humiliation in front of other workers or clients
  • Lewd behavior such as “mooning” or flipping the middle finger
  • Physical abuse or threats of physical abuse
  • Damage to computers, vehicles, clothes or equipment so that you cannot get tasks done on time
  • Cyber bullying, where threats come through email, text messages or faxes
  • Photoshopped images of you in sexually compromising positions sent to other employees
  • False letters, emails or other communication that appears to be written by you (but wasn’t written by you) sent to other co-workers, clients or social media websites.

Do not ignore workplace bullying. Bullies usually keep on harassing their victims until they are forced to stop or are fired. Do not bully back. You can get fired for bullying, even if you feel that you were provoked.

Why Can’t Victims Just Quit Their Jobs?

Adult bullying victims do not get the media coverage that child bully victims do. They also may find less sympathy to their plight because they are adults. They may be bluntly told by friends and family members to “tough it out” or “just quit.”

Quitting is not an option for many workers with bills to pay and families to support. Ever since the worldwide economic recession of 2008, finding a job is difficult even for the most qualified of applicants. According to a study done by the Workplace Bullying Institute, the top reasons for victims not leaving a job due to bullying includes:

  • Fear of losing the job’s income
  • Victim has does nothing wrong to warrant handing in a resignation
  • Love of the job
  • Pride
  • Hoping the bully will change.

No worker should have to put up with bullying. Fortunately, there are many things workers can do to protect themselves from bullying in the workplace. Victims need to make careful records, confront their bully’s superiors and get any additional help needed.

Make Careful Records

Most workplace bullying victims would rather not think about bullying incidents. However, making a careful record of each bullying incident gives you more ammunition against your tormentor. Keep a separate physical file or computer file to keep all of your records together. Make copies in case your tormentor discovers the file and destroys it.

Each face to face incident should include:

  • Date of incident (even your best guess will do)
  • Names of any co-workers that saw the incident or who were in the room when the incident occurred
  • Exactly what the bully did. Do not embellish. Be truthful.
  • Your immediate response to your bully. Even if you did nothing, write that down.

Each online incident should be dated and copied. Copy and paste emails, faxes, text messages, voice mails and even comments on your blog or webpage from your tormentor. If you are not certain if your cyber bully if your workplace bully, copy everything suspicious in case your workplace bully happens to be your cyber bully.

Learn more about What is Workplace BullyingAdult Bullying Stories: War in the Workplace , How to Handle Workplace Bullying and our interview with Pamela Garber on Workplace Bullying

Confront Bully’s Superiors

Find out who your bully’s direct superior is. This is the person you have to complain to. This should be a person who has the power to hire and fire employees. In large companies, this would be the human resource manager. In smaller businesses, this would be the business owner. Bring a hard copy of your file for the superior to look at.

Insist on a private face to face meeting with the bully’s superior. Your bully may be able to overhear you on the phone or look into your emails. Do not tell your bully that you are meeting with his or her superior – no matter how tempting it is.

If there is no one above your bully that can fire him, you need to figure out what organization holds your bully’s credentials. For example, if a lawyer is your bully, then write to the state’s bar association. You can also make a complaint with your local Better Business Bureau.

Do not expect that the situation will be resolved immediately. You will be doubted. The human resources manager or whoever will need time to conduct his or her own investigation into your bully’s behavior.

Workplace Bullying Statistics

According to workplace bullying statistics, approximately one out of three workers in many workplaces is bullied. Studies from workplace bullying statistics also show that 20 percent of the bullying cases eventually cross the line and qualify for harassment. Based on another finding by The New York Times, more than 60 percent of bullies in most workplaces are men. They have a tendency to subject fellow workers, both men and women, to their inhuman treatment. When it comes to the female counterparts, their most vulnerable victims are the other females. This is attributed to the fact that there seems to be pressure on females in their effort to succeed in the male-dominated sectors. Another study on workplace bullying statistics shows that the females also try to push others out of their way by their bullying attitudes so as to have no competitors in getting promotions.

Get Any Additional Help

If you feel that your life or the lives of your pets or family members are in immediate danger, contact the police or your lawyer immediately. Show them a copy of your file. Even if the police seem to do nothing, just filing a report shows that you are sufficiently worried about your bully’s future behavior.

Workplace bullying is no rite of passage. Facing bullying in the workplace and tolerating won’t be getting you places, workplaces don’t need hazing like rituals to advance the people. If you have a workplace bully, report him to your supervisors and remember that workplace bullying laws were created to aid you in fighting bullying in the workplace. Even filing a workplace bullying lawsuit is now an option. Don’t take workplace bullying as a definite, it is not!

There are many online advocates for bullying victims of all ages. Contact as many organizations as you can and tell them your story. Follow their advice. Be patient. Bullying incidents take time to resolve. Take some time every day to relax and be with trusted friends. This positive interaction will help temporarily take your mind off your bully and make the time you have to wait for a resolution go faster.

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  • Ciaran Connolly (ciaranconnolly2) | Pearltrees
    Jul 26, 2014 at 07:08 pm

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