In the simplest terms possible, bullying can be described as a continuous behaviour of hurting, harming and creating distress and anxiety in others. In most cases, a bully is usually in a higher position of power or supremacy than the prey who in this case happens to be the victim or the injured party. This could either mean that the bully is either bigger in size and strength or have a higher standing and more support from the peer group. Learn about the Types of Bullying below!
Bullying comes in many types but the three most common Types of Bullying are the following:
Physical- this is where a person is harmed either bodily or through personal property. This can happen in the following ways:
- Forceful touching
- Slapping, hitting, kicking, punching, pinching e.t.c
Verbal -this is where the bully uses insults or name-calling by doing any of the following:
- unwanted teasing
- spreading rumours, gossip and hearsay
- making racists and homophobic remarks and statements
Social- this is quickly becoming the most widespread nature of bullying where the victim is rejected, avoided and excluded from peer groups and events. Social bullying comes in the following ways:
- the victim is insulted and insulted through graffiti
- He or she could receive threatening notes, calls, messages, letters and emails.
- He or she could even be threatened with words, actions and weapons.
- This victim could also be excluded from a group or gathering.
Sometimes it is relatively easy to identify a victim of bullying but at other times it becomes extremely difficult. A person and most especially a child who is being bullied or who is doing the bullying could exhibit or show the following signs for all the types of bullying:
- He or she could constantly complain of being treated unfairly by his or her peers.
- He or she could suddenly avoid leaving the house, skip school or suddenly change the normal route to school.
- Bullied children will change their normal behaviour suddenly; they could for example become sleepless, lose appetite, wake up feeling sick, have angry outbursts or even become aggressive to the other children at home.
- A victim of bullying is also very likely to start doing poorly at school.
- He or she could come from school with torn clothes and bruises that cannot be explained.
- A bully could come home with new clothes, money and other items that cannot be accounted for.
- A bullied child may also start talking about dealing with some of his schoolmates in a violent way.
In junior and senior high schools, bullying is likely to occur in the form of harassment and intimidation. Harassment is an action or comment that is meant to hurt, humiliate, demean or offend another individual. On the other hand, intimidation can be described as the intention to cause fear so as to blackmail an individual into doing or not doing something.
Harassment and intimidation, also considered types of bullying, may take the form of any of the following:
- unwanted teasing
- spreading of rumours and hearsay
- rejection from a group
- Threatening through letters, emails, notes and other forms of communication.
- Unwanted touching
- Racist and homophobic comments and slurs.
- Threatening through spoken words, actions and weapons.
- Using graffiti to insult and threaten
Other Types of Bullying
Just like we have already seen, bullies use different ways to hurt, intimidate, humiliate and harm both physically and emotionally. Experts in this topic have already discovered that these bullies will only find pleasure in repeat attacks. Another fact regarding bullying is that a victim is likely to keep suffering from trauma long after the bullying has stopped.
Discussed below are additional types of bullying:
Pressure bullying – pressure bullying is where person who is usually calm and collected suddenly starts shouting and swearing at people around them due to a stressful situation.
Hazing – this type of bullying is used to initiate a person into a select group. To be accepted as a member of the group, the victim is usually forced to perform humiliating and uncomfortable acts which may torment them emotionally and physically for a long time to come.
Cyber bullying – cyber bullying is directly as a result of the technology age. Bullies have been misusing technology in the form of cell phones and the internet to send cruel and threatening messages and to their victims. These bullies will also post nasty comments and embarrassing information about the victim to embarrass them.
School bullying is a very common type of bullying where the bullying will take place at school. Several researches have shown that most children don’t perceive bullying as seriously as their parents do. Some of these children and most especially the bullies see nothing wrong with their habit and will only see it as a fun activity.
Girls and boys both have different bullying tactics where the boys will physically harm their victims by shoving, punching, kicking and so on. Girls on the other hand will use subtle methods that can be as harmful if not more harmful than the physical ways. These “subtle” bullying methods from the girls include gossiping, spreading rumor and hearsay.
Parents of children who are bullied at school have confessed to hurting as much if not more than their children. Fortunately, there is a lot you can do as a parent to help your child handle bullying at school.
Below are some tips to handle all types of bullying:
- Bullying can happen even at kindergarten level. Parents are therefore advised to start talking to their children about bullying as early as possible. Bullying becomes more significant in grade school where it tends to be more physical. In high school, it takes a different turn where rather than being physical, it tends to lean heavily on cyber bullying where the teens and pre-teens will use emails, text messages and chats to bully.
- Parents should do everything possible to gain open communication between them and their children, this will enable them to speak to you about anything including being bullied at school.
- Urge them to report cases of bullying to the school authorities.
- Together, come up with a plan or strategy to deal with a bullying situation should they find themselves in such a situation in future.
- Teach them the power of peer groups and numbers. Talk to them about talking to their friends and schoolmates about forming an anti-bullying group which they can use to protect victims of bullying at school.