Some of the recent statistics on Internet searches are disturbing. Searches like “I want to die” indicate that there is a growing sense of desperation among teens and young people today. The very fact that 49,500 people are searching for this term each month indicates that many people live with suicidal depression and feel there’s no way out. Robin William’s death highlights this very point when he was found hanged in his closet with a belt buckle after suffering from ongoing depression over a period of several months. When someone who spent his life making other laugh wants to die, is there any hope for the rest of us? We break suicide statistics down per country in the article below; how does your region fare?
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Facts About Suicide
The truth is that suicides are happening at an alarming rate. If we are ever going to get a grasp of how to handle this epidemic of self-inflicted deaths, we need to understand not only how it happens but also WHY. Who is most likely to do this?
The American Foundation for Suicide Prevention statistics show the following data for 2014:
*The suicide statistics are aggregated approximately every 3 years, so the following data reflects back to the years 2011-2014.
- In 2011, almost 40,000 people took their lives, making suicide the 10th leading cause of death for Americans.
- In 2011, someone in the U.S. died by suicide every 13.3 minutes.
- Teens and the elderly are considered the highest risk populations for suicide.
- Suicide and depression are responsible for thousands of broken relationships, lost jobs, and financial distress due to those left behind scrambling to make sense of the tragedy.
What about the Rest of the World?
Globally speaking, there are about 804,000 suicide cases happening worldwide each year, which is almost ONE MILLION people dying every year due to suicide; at the rate of growth highlighted below, it will not be long before this number is passed. The annual global age-standardized suicide rate worldwide, according to WHO, is 11.4 per 100 000 population (15.0 for males and 8.0 for females). In some countries, suicide rates are highest among the young, and globally suicide is the second leading cause of death in 15−29-year-olds. For every suicide there are many more people who attempt suicide every year. Significantly, a prior suicide attempt is the single most important risk factor for suicide in the general population worldwide. According to one study, in their lifetime 1 in 5 people become depressed; yet is this enough to push people towards suicide? We examine the statistics per country below. Delve into the signs we should watch out for and what we can do when we are feeling depressed.
Furthermore, in the last 45 years suicide rates have increased by 60% worldwide. Suicide is now among the three leading causes of death among those aged 15-44 (male and female). Suicide attempts are up to 20 times more frequent than completed suicides.
- Suicide rates among young people have been increasing to such an extent that they are now the group at highest risk in a third of all countries.
- Mental health disorders (particularly depression and substance abuse) are associated with more than 90% of all cases of suicide.
- Nearly 30% of all suicides worldwide occur in India and China.
- Suicides globally by age are as follows: 55% are aged between 15 to 44 years and 45% are aged 45 years and over.
Youth suicide is increasing at the greatest rate worldwide!
First of all, the latest suicide statistics report encompasses data collected between 2011 and 2013. The total number of reported suicide cases in the United Kingdom is 5,981 in 2012 with Males predominantly taking the larger portion at 4,590 victims.
While the highest rate of suicide relies at the age group of 40-50, a significant number of suicide victims are from the age group of 15-25, per each 100,000 of the UK population at the age group of 15-25 the suicide rate is about 23.8. The below chart shows that “I want to die” is searched an average of 6,600 times per month in the UK at the moment. The highest month is January – which might not be so surprising, since it is after our most popular time of year in December – which could be a very hard time for people who are feeling alone and isolated. There also seems to be a uplift some August and September each year – does this correlate to school time, or to the point when the sun shines for the summer months – every things seems to be a little bit better? It is hard to know.
Between April 2013 and April 2014 Childline has reported 34,517 sessions with children talking about suicide. In fact 6 out of every 10 counselling sessions with children for suicide were with children aged 12 to 15 years old. 34,517 is an increase from 15,994 in 2010-2011, 22,006 in 2011-2012, and 29,163 in 2012-2013.
In our research of suicide related terms, possible 690 words and phrases were searched 301,370 times per month on Google over the past year. This shows the amount of people who suffer from depression related illnesses and turn to the Internet for help.
According to the NHS, SAD or Seasonal Affective Disorder affects 2 million people in the UK and more than 12 million people in Northern Europe – shocking statistics. They explain that SAD affects three times more women than men, most likely aged 18-30. SAD is also known as the winter depression, as often the symptoms are more severe in the winter months, including January and February. It is believed that SAD is caused by lack of sunlight which impacts the way our minds work and feel.
Contact these hotlines for help with suicidal thoughts:
Hotline: +44 (0) 8457 90 90 90 (UK – local rate)
Hotline: +44 (0) 8457 90 91 92 (UK minicom)
Hotline: 1850 60 90 90 (ROI – local rate)
Hotline: 1850 60 90 91 (ROI minicom)
In the UK, the following terms are also searched for monthly:
I just want to die – 480 times on average per month
Want to die – 480 times on average per month
I dont want to die – 260 times on average per month
Wanting to die – 480 times on average per month
Why do I want to die – 170 times on average per month
Help I want to die – 50 times per month
I want to die now – 70 times per month
I want to die but im scared – 90 times per month
I think I want to die – 110 times per month
Suicide methods – 8,100 times per month on average
suicidal thoughts – 9,900 times
depression i want to die – 70 times per month
suicide – 27,100 times per month
i hate myself and want to die – 140 times per month
i want to die right now – 70 times per month
i want to die help me – 70 times
suicidal – 3,600 times
i want to kill myself – 2,900 times
suicide methods painless – 1,000 times
help me i want to die – 40 times
suicidal ideation – 1,900 times
painless suicide – 1,600 times
how to kill yourself – 4,400 times
feeling suicidal – 1,600 times
i hate myself and i want to die – 110 times
how to hang yourself – 1,900 times
The above terms are 26 out of 690 related search terms on this topic, just for the United Kingdom alone.
For the same age group, it is determined that about 774 people took their own lives in England in 2012 alone. The stats from England differ very little from the entire UK stats as would be expected due to the population breakdown. It also shows that these statistics are not exact, but an average per month over a year. Google has over 88% of the search engine share in the UK, hence why we feel this is a good representation of what is happening online.
Contact these hotlines for help with suicidal thoughts:
0800 068 41 41 or SMS: 07786 209697
High search terms we found in England include:
suicide – 27,100 searches on average per month
euthanasia ( intentionally ending a life to avoid or end pain and suffering ) – 22,200 times
signs of depression – is searched 22,200 times per month
help me – is searched 9,900 times per month
suicidal thoughts – 9,900 times per month on average
suicide methods – 8,100 searches are made on this term per month
am i depressed – is also searched an average of 8,100 times per month in England.
Looking at key cities the numbers are as follows:
London per month has 6,600 suicide searches, suicidal thoughts is searched 1,900 times, suicide methods 1,600 times, and help me 1,900 times.
Birmingham per month has 480 suicide searches, suicidal thoughts is searched 210 times, suicide methods 140 times and help me 140 times.
Leeds per month has 480 suicide searches on average, suicidal thoughts 170 times, suicide methods 140 times and help me 140 times.
Sheffield has 390 suicide searches, 140 suicidal thoughts, 110 searches for suicide methods and 110 searches for help me.
Bradford has 90 suicide searches, 30 suicidal thoughts, 20 suicide methods and 30 searches for help me per month on average.
Liverpool has 480 suicide searches, 210 suicidal thoughts, 140 suicide methods and 140 searches for help me per month
Manchester has 590 suicide searches, 210 suicidal thoughts, 170 suicide methods and 170 searches for help me every month.
The above shows that the problem is nationwide, impacting all communities.
Wales boasts a population of just over 3 million; the overall suicide numbers of 2012 were 49 cases per the age group of 15-29. While the search volume was much lower in Wales, we still see the same pattern: high in August and September, but highest in Jan and again March each year.
Key phrases searched in Wales include:
euthanasia – is searched 1,000 times per month on average in Wales
suicide – is searched 880 times per month in Wales
suicidal thoughts – 390 times per month
help me – 320 times per month
how to kill yourself – 140 times per month
how to commit suicide – 140 times per month
suicidal – 110 times per month
While the search volume is low, compared to the population, it is still a high number of people seeking some sort of help per month. Our research found 14,800 monthly search terms in words or phrases related to “I want to kill myself” in Wales per month. Cardiff has 320 searches for euthanasia, 390 searches per month for suicide, 90 searches for suicide methods, 140 searches for suicidal thoughts and 90 searches for help me.
Call this number with help related to suicide in Wales: 0800 132 737.
In Scotland, the latest recorded number of suicide cases for 2012 per the same age group of 15-29 is 238. Monthly in Scotland 590 people search for “I want to die.” The country actually follows a slightly different pattern to the rest of the UK: July seeming to be the “happiest” month for people in Scotland with least searches online around this topic. The pattern returns to normal come school time; August and September see a peak again.
Most frequent searches in Scotlands related to depression and suicide:
depression – 6,600 searches per month.
suicide – 2,400 searches per month.
euthanasia – 2,400 searches per month.
suicidal thoughts – 880 searches per month on average.
am I depressed – 720 searches per month.
suicide methods – 720 searches.
help me – 720 searches per month.
how to kill yourself – 320 searches.
how to commit suicide – 320 people search this per month in Scotland.
I want to kill myself – 260 searches per month.
In Edinburgh 480 people search monthly for suicide, 170 for suicidal thoughts, 140 search for suicide methods and 140 search for help me every month in this city. In Glasgow suicide is searched a total of 480 times per month, suicidal thoughts 210 searches, suicide methods 170 searches, and 140 searches for help me.
Contact these numbers for suicide prevention help in Scotland:
0800 83 85 87
08457 90 90 90
The reported number for suicide cases in Northern Ireland in 2012 included, sadly, 8 cases of successful suicides by children between the ages of 10-14, that mixed with the age group of 15-29 puts the 2012 total at 86 suicides; at a population of nearly 2 million, this is a number worth exploring, especially that suicide attempts, ideations and suicidal depression numbers are not looked at. In Belfast 210 people search monthly for euthanasia, 90 for help me, 70 search for suicide methods and 140 for suicidal thoughts.
Across Northern Ireland, every month an average of 590 people search for suicide online, 390 people search for euthanasia, 260 people search for suicidal thoughts, 210 search for help me, 170 people search for suicide methods , 90 people search for how to kill yourself and 70 people search for how to commit suicide.
Call Lifeline on 0808 808 8000 for help with suicidal thoughts or actions.
With a population of 4.5 million, there were 132 suicides among the age group of 10-29 in the Republic of Ireland. This is, also, an astounding number, especially that suicide attempts, ideations and suicidal depression numbers are not looked at. In Dublin, suicide is searched for 1,600 times every month, suicidal thoughts 590 times, suicide methods is searched for 390 per month, how to commit suicide 170 times, and I want to kill myself 110 times per month.
Cork has a similar problem, suicide is searched for 140 times per month, suicidal thoughts 40 times, suicide methods 30 times per month and I want to kill myself is searched for by 10 people per month.
Even Galway is touched by this issue, with suicide being searched for 140 times per month, suicidal thoughts by 40 people per month, suicide methods 30 people per month and I want to kill myself is googled by 10 people per month in this city.
Limerick has 70 suicide searches per month. Kildare has on average 40 suicide searches per month. In Sligo 30 people search for this topic online. Donegal, Kerry, Meath, Louth and Wexford have 20 people searching for suicide every month. Lastly Mayo, Leitrim, Cavan, Monaghan, Westmeath, Offaly, Laois, Kildare, Kilkenny, Carlow, Waterford, Longford, Roscommon have an average of 10 people searching per month for suicide.
Ireland has 880 people per month who search google using the term help me, suicide methods is searched for by 590 people on average. How to kill yourself has 260 people searching, I want to kill myself has 170 searches and I wish I was dead is searched by 110 people on average per month.
NoBullying.com reviewed a total of 690 global search terms around suicide and found that 527 of these were reguralarly used in Google search engine in Ireland, where it is the most popular method of search engine requests, boasting over 94% of the local market. On average 23,310 searches were made monthly across Ireland for these terms which include people asking why do I want to die (average 10 people per month), suicide methods painless (average 90 searches per month), slit wrists (70 searches per month), painless suicide (90 searches per month), I wish I was dead (110 searches per month), and I want to commit suicide (30 searches per month).
Of the 23,310 searches, 5.8% of the problem seems to be in Clare, 13.5% in Galway.
For help with suicidal thoughts or actions please contact:
1800 247 247
1800 66 66 66
With almost 804,000 people committing suicide worldwide every year, South Africa is considered one of the highest rankings in suicide numbers worldwide; the only credible source on suicide numbers cites 23 suicides in 2012 and highlights the case of one seven year old girl who committed suicide in 2011 because she was afraid to go to school. Bullying perhaps? It seems 720 people search monthly for how to commit suicide, and 390 people search on average per month for how to kill yourself.
Call this hotline for help with suicidal thoughts in South Africa:
Befrienders South Africa
051 444 5691
In a report published earlier in 2014, it was estimated that, per 100,000 of the population, the overall suicide rate in New Zealand is 10.6. As for the age group of 10-29 the rate is 56.5 per 100,000 of the population. Monthly, 480 people search for the term help me, suicide methods is googled by 320 people per month, how to kill yourself is searched for by 260 people monthly and 110 people search for how to hang yourself.
Call this hotline for help with suicidal thoughts in New Zealand:
Samaritans Hutt Valley (inc.)
(04) 586 1048
Samaritans of Manawatu Inc.
(06) 358 2442
First of all, according to this report, suicide remains the leading cause of death for Australians aged between 15 and 44.
The most recent data reports that deaths due to suicide were 2,535 in 2012 only with the overall suicide rate in 2012 being 11.0 per 100,000; in 2012, 1,901 males (16.8 per 100,000) and 634 females (5.6 per 100,000) died by suicide. By a simple math equation, that means almost seven suicide deaths happen every day in Australia.
For every completed suicide, it is estimated that as many as 30 people attempt suicide unsuccessfully, which means 200 people in Australia try committing suicide every day, which is a new attempt every 10 minutes. In Australia, around 250 people make a suicide plan every day and around 1,000 people think about suicide every day.
Facts that are backed up by the Google searches: suicide and 690 related terms in our study are searched for over 119,800 times per month across Australia, showing the emotions that people are dealing with daily.
Call this hotline for help with suicidal thoughts in Australia:
13 11 14
1300 651 251
In India alone on 2012, about 46,000 suicides occurred each in 15-29 and 30-44 age groups in 2012. That is about 34% each of all suicides. India has 12,100 people searching month for suicide in Google, 6,600 for how to die, 3,600 how to commit suicide, 2,900 for how to suicide and 880 for suicide tips.
For suicide help in India call :+91 33 2474 4704
Greenland, sadly, takes the top position when it comes to suicide rates. The annual rate of suicide cases in Greenland is 100 per 100,000.
The majority of Greenland citizens who kill themselves are teenagers and young adults.
When it comes to suicide rates in the USA, not all states are created equal. Some states have shown a spike in suicide rates among youth, according to the American Association of Suicidology.
Texas tops the list with 431 suicide related deaths among youths in 2012 with a rate of 11.3 per 100,000.
Pennsylvania comes in second with 197 suicide related deaths at a rate of 11.3 per 100,000.
Michigan comes in third with 184 suicide related deaths at a 13.0 rate per 100,000.
The suicide rate may go up according to a state’s general total population; for example, Alaska has the highest suicide rate (32.8) although only 38 cases were reported in 2012.
In Google search engine, per month in the USA:
help me – is searched on average 165,000 times.
suicide – is searched 135,000 times.
suicidal thoughts – 33,100 times.
how to kill yourself – is searched 18,100 times per month.
am i depressed – 18,100 searches on average per month.
how to commit suicide and suicide methods – are searched on average 14,800 times per month.
I want to kill myself – 9,900 times.
kill yourself – 8,100 times.
how to die – 6,600 times.
ways to kill yourself – 5,400 times per month on average.
best way to kill yourself – 4,400.
how to hang yourself – 4,400.
how to kill yourself painlessly – 2,900 on average per month.
For help with suicide call this national suicide helpline at 1800 273 8255.
Factors Contributing to Suicide
In the past, teens surpassed the other age groups in terms of incidents of suicide. However, in 2011, the highest age group that committed suicide was the middle to older population (age 45-64). The second highest rate was ages over 85 years, and the third highest was people aged 15-24. This statistic should not be misunderstood, however. Just because teens were currently listed as the lowest suicide risk age group in 2011 does not mean they are no longer at risk. In fact, quite the contrary, while teens are in the lowest of the top three risk populations, this figure comprises over 100,000 deaths per year, so it means that this is still a very severe problem for all of those concerned with our youth. Older people should be especially watched as well, as they often lose meaning in life as they head into the sunset of their life, and even younger, middle-aged adults often feel that their life is just not worth living. So those searching for terms such as: “I think I want to kill myself,” “Why do I want to die?” and “I hate myself and want to die,” are as much in need of help as younger people today. In addition, people outside of these age groups may also be at high risk due to a number of other factors, discussed below.
Females have lagged behind males traditionally in the suicide rate. In fact, in the past, the suicide rate has been about 4 times higher among men than women. In the year 2011, men were reported as having a suicide rate of 20.2 and women had a rate of 5.4. Of those who died at their own hand in the same year, 78.5% of these were male, and 21.5% were female.
The highest suicide rate in the U.S. in 2011 (the year this data was updated) was among White Caucasians (14.5) and the second highest rate was among American Indians (10.6). Asians had one of the lowest rates of suicide, at (5.9), Black Americans at (5.3), and Hispanics at (5.2).
These are interesting statistics because some data suggests that Japanese students have one of the highest suicide rates in the world, due to their extreme emphasis on succeeding at high levels within their educational structure. However, remember that those studies are focused on students only and, for purposes of our study here, we are looking at more conclusive data. When we divide up specific demographics and analyze the tendencies for self-inflicted suicide, we may see other specific patterns emerging. It is also important to note that there are many “subgroups” within both the Ethnic groups studied and the age groups which may also be more prone to suicide over time than other groups, due to external factors which we do not address here. Statistics can be studies on a variety of levels, so it is important to qualify the type of data and conclusions we are focusing on in each case, to paint the clearest picture of reality. But in general, statistics look at larger demographic groups and these are the results of those analyses.
Sometimes the geographical region or state can also play a role in suicide rates. In 2010, the following suicide rates were reported by the involved states:
New Mexico 20.1
New York 8.0
New Jersey 8.2
If we analyze the areas these suicides take place, we see that suicide rates are highest in the West (13.6), followed by the South (12.6), the Midwest (12.0), and the Northeast (9.3).
Geographical factors alone are not the only factor contributing to suicidal tendencies, but there may be tendencies toward suicide which involve some aspects of the culture of these locations, or it may be some other unseen factors which are not as obvious, such as the types of people or personality types who are generally attracted to these locations in the first place, as well as familial factors, genetic tendencies of residents in these areas, and other factors.
Many times, it is impossible to pinpoint specific factors which lead to suicide. All we can do in statistics is to present the information so that people in these areas, age groups or other demographic factors can be especially on the lookout for suicidal behaviors and tendencies so that you can attempt to stop them before they become facts.
Reasons For Suicide
There are a wide variety of reasons people cite as reasons they contemplate suicide. Some of the most common are:
- Feeling of isolation/loneliness.
- Falling grades or behavior problems.
- Financial struggles or bankruptcy.
- Failing relationships.
- Loss of interest in once-loved activities.
- Loss of close friends or spouse.
- Failing health or loss of mobility.
- Loss of job or family.
- World issues like economic problems.
- Fears and anxieties.
Like many other societal problems and issues, the best thing you can do to stop suicide is to prevent its causes. Teachers, parents, counselors, and anyone else involved in a young person’s life (or other ages affected by this problem) must be aware of any behaviors and take them seriously. Learn what the indicators and ‘red flags’ are, and know the proper course to take to get help to the person in need.
Signs of Suicide
There are many signs of suicide which someone (especially young people) may exhibit before attempting to kill themselves. Any one of these may be present, but one is enough to do something about it. If you witness any of these behaviors in someone you know, contact a counselor or a mental health professional immediately:
- Saying “I just want to kill myself,” “I really want to kill myself,” or asking “Why do I want to kill myself?” “I just want to die,” or looking up any of these terms or similar search terms online. Any suicide statement must be taken seriously, no matter whether the person seemed to be joking at the time or not.
- Exhibiting behaviors which show that the person wants to die or just wants to give up. Giving away possessions, giving up on a social life or hobbies they once loved, clothes, or other belongings may all be signs that the person is thinking of taking their own life.
- Ongoing depression and “anger toward oneself.” Clinical psychologists describe clinical depression as ‘anger turned inward.’ Rather than turning anger toward others (as is often the case with the homicidal or aggressive person), the suicidal person is angry at themselves. They may never hurt anyone else, but they have no desire of self-preservation.
- Low self-confidence. Some teens and others are suffering from low self-esteem and are not suicidal. However, many of them are. Kids who want to kill themselves have no esteem. So one of the signs you can look for as parents or others involved in the lives of young people is a lack of self-esteem.
- Feeling of Resignation. One surprising sign of suicide, once someone has decided to take their own life, is a feeling of happiness. This is often the factor most overlooked because it is associated with a feeling of resignation. But, because the person seems to be happy again, even though it is due to the fact that they have decided to end it all, it is often missed. It is critical to realize that if you have someone who has been depressed over a long period of time and they suddenly seem elated, beware. This could mean that they are closer to the act of suicide than they have ever been, and it may be the last chance you have to stop it. So, unless there is an obvious solution being sought for the person, step in. Do something. The window of opportunity may be closing.
- Loss of hope. Finally, a general feeling of lost hope and that there is no solution is prevalent in the suicidal person. Hope is the key ingredient in their recovery, as well. So the goal of anyone who works with someone in this condition should be to restore their sense of hope for the future.
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In addition to many successful suicides, there are also several suicidal attempts each year which are (luckily) caught before they are successful. It is estimated that the total cost of actual suicides each year is around $34 billion. It might surprise you to know, however, that the numbers of people who ATTEMPT suicide but are unsuccessful is close to half a million. Around 483,000 people visited a hospital for self-inflicted behavior which was either a true suicide attempt, or an attempt to gain attention. Regardless of their true motive, such behavior is indicative of true mental disorder and these people are also in need of help because the next attempt may prove successful.
The Human Side of the Statistics
We can see that we as a nation have a big problem on our hands. People putting Facebook posts up that read “I want to kill myself help,” “What do I do?” and “I want to die what should I do?” all scream out for help for someone who is willing to step forward and do something. Suicide is a very emotional topic for many people and when it happens, it touches the lives and emotions of people across every walk of life, whether it happens to a teenager, or someone who is 89. The truth is suicide should never happen. There is enough hatred, enough violence, enough pain in the world, without inflicting it on oneself. Deaths such as Robin Williams’ death should never have happened. In the movie, “Dead Poets Society,” in which Robin Williams played the lead role as the teacher, Mr. John Keating, taught a group of young but enthusiastic boys to “suck all the marrow out of life,” because their lives were just beginning. He wanted them to see that there was a whole beautiful world waiting for them, and they should make their lives extraordinary. Why? Because as he put it, “we are food for worms.” The point was that the end of someone’s life was death, where no more opportunities waited, no chance for love, no opportunity to make a fortune. Once the final chapter on a life was played out, that was it. This inspired these young boys to reach for greatness, a greatness they would never have found outside of this perspective. It is in being in touch with one’s own death that we truly begin to live.
I just want to die. Please let me die. — Idk (@Prostitute5SOS) October 19, 2014
And Yet, The actor who played this part with such fervor, the man who so believed in real life (as his character did in the film), one afternoon in Beverly Hills house, decided that life indeed was just not worth living. What went wrong? At what point did this great comedian, poet, actor, and all around nice guy just wake up and decide it wasn’t worth it anymore? What could have been done to stop the turn of events that Robin Williams believed were just too great to overcome? Could one person who knew of his true inner grief have stopped him from taking his own life on that fateful day? We will never know the answer to these questions, but we do know that we must be proactive when it comes to suicide. We need to be ever conscious of the social media pages of young people on Facebook and Twitter and find out what they are writing on their wall. We need to look at the recent Google searches in young people’s Google accounts and see what they are looking up. Because the things people search for online are the things they are dwelling on. And if they are truly dwelling on terms like “I want to kill myself,” and “I want to die,” something is seriously wrong.
What Can We Do?
As educators, parents, and those who care about the young people of today (or anyone who is in one of the high risk groups for suicide), here are some of the things that can be done to help prevent some of the suicides we are seeing today and start to put a dent in the statistics:
- Know what your child is thinking, doing, drawing, and searching for online. Some of the searches they are doing on Google are telling a story of what is going on inside their minds, things they may never tell you. You can look at these searches and have a clearer picture of what they are thinking about then start a discussion with them about this.
- Know who their friends are, what their habits are, and what they talk about with others. Encourage them to get involved in specific activities. Statistics show that kids who are actively engaged in extracurricular activities, hobbies, sports, fine arts, and other pursuits are not as likely to want to kill themselves and have higher self-esteem than other kids.
- Watch for falling grades and other school activities which indicate a “downward slide.” There is a lot of evidence to indicate that kids who have trouble in school and lose interest in their school and social activities may be more prone to these behaviors.
- Watch behavior problems. Kids with behavioral issues are also more likely to exhibit suicidal behaviors. Talk with your child’s principals, school counselor, and others who can help you gain insight into the behavioral patterns your child is exhibiting, so that you can have a better sense of what to do to handle it.
- Contact the suicide hotline. There is a national Suicide Hotline available 24/7. The number is: 1-800-273-TALK. Anyone can call this number 24-hours per day, 7 days a week and get help. A trained counselor will talk to you and listen to your problems and advise you on how you can handle your situation. There is no problem too big or too small and they are your lifeline in time of trouble. Whether you are a teen or an older person thinking of ending your life, or a concerned parent or teacher, call them today and they will help.
These are some things you can do to be proactive in the fight against suicide. The statistics on suicide are staggering. And the battle seems to just be beginning. Every year we are baffled by yet more deaths which resulted from someone taking their lives into their own hands and deciding it just wasn’t worth trying.
I hate myself and I want to die. Kill me now please — blood of heroes (@itsteenspirit) October 19, 2014
One Day at a Time
Perhaps the best approach to help those who might be suicidal is to teach them what people in the AA (Alcoholics Anonymous) organization have been saying for several years, “one day at a time.” This approach is a psychological technique which is often successful for many because it takes the burden of the future off of someone’s shoulders and helps them to focus on only the present.
For ONE DAY…you can choose not to kill yourself and enjoy any good the day may bring.
For ONE DAY…you can choose not to worry, pine, or fret over everything that comes your way, to see the good in people, overlook the bad, and think about the good things of life.
Just for today…someone can choose life, not death, and look at each new day as an opportunity for change.
Just for today, you can seek help for your difficulties and realize that you are not the only one in need. There are plenty of other people who also struggle with the daily challenges of life and are also seeking for answers.
For one day, you can look around and think about what you are thankful for…the birds, the sky, the air. A roof over your head. Food to eat. Clothes in your bureau drawer. Just for today, you can smile and be happy, for you never know what the morrow brings, but you can face it, with the help of well-meaning friends.
And when the day darkens and the sky turns black, you can recall the day when you were happy, and life looked lovely and inviting, and you chose to take on the challenges of life, one day at a time.
Change Your Search Terms
Instead of searching for how to die, search for how to live. Look for meaning in life beyond the mundane circumstances which brought you here. What do you want your life to mean? What will you do with your life that is extraordinary? How will your life make a difference in the lives of others?
How Will You Be Remembered?
If you cannot answer these questions, then you have not started living yet. Let your search for death end with a search for meaning in life, fulfillment, love, and joy. They can all be yours. All you have to do is change the way you think. Write down a list of things you are thankful for, things you are good at, things you love. Think about the fact that, if you choose to end your life, you will lose them all. Are you really ready to leave them so soon?
Also consider others you’ll leave behind, who will be permanently affected by your act, and may never be the same because of your actions. Remember that suicide is the ultimate selfish act, an act of self-inflicted violence on oneself, it is murder in the first-degree upon a victim who will never see absolution, and a perpetrator who will never see punishment.
But, most of all, it is an act which stops all chances, all choices, once and for all, and closes all doors of opportunity into an unknown future.
Suicide stops a beating heart. It ends life. There’s nothing glamorous about it. It’s a choice. A bad choice. A choice that has devastating consequences to others and yourself. There’s no turning back once its done and all that you could have been, seen, loved, and done are history, even if they have never been in the present. There are no more chances to rectify the wrongs. No retakes or redos. It is a final, complete act with no way to reverse it.
So the next time you or someone you know searches for terms like “I hate myself and want to die,” or “I want to kill myself,” don’t do anything until you have connected this person with the help they need so that they can talk about why they want to die. Your lack of action can cost someone their life. We must all work together to find solutions to this growing national epidemic. The Internet can be the salvation of people who might consider suicide, by telling others in their searches what is on their mind. But if we do nothing, it will all be useless information.
Work with your school, your counselors, and others who can help the person using these search terms to start to see life differently. Teach them to deal with the issues, rather than to give up, to see the light at the end of the tunnel, and to embrace life and take one day at a time. It may be a struggle, for some more than others, and it may not come easily. But it is a battle worth fighting, because the price is too great to pay for ignoring it.
If you or someone you know is contemplating suicide, don’t wait. Get help today. Nothing is ever so bad that it’s worth giving up a precious human life. There is help to be found in many arenas, starting with your local schools and parent organizations. As you can see from the above numbers, you are not alone. Choose life. It’s worth it. It may be an uphill struggle, but the view from the top is amazing!
This is a serious topic and the reason we at NoBullying.com have written this content is to attract people searching for this topic or certain phrases online and bring them to a resource website that offers understanding, support and help. While we do discuss the subject, the aim of this article is to also offer support, advice and point to more helpful content that a reader would not necessarily get from another website. If you are reading this article and believe the subject matter offends you we ask you to comment below so that we can share your input with our valued readers. If you are worried about suicide or any other issues please contact us and we will guide you on where to go for help.