The bully has always been presented as the bad guy in movies, books, and even our own personal experiences. It is a character that has persistently repeated itself over time, and in several ways, its presence formulates an obstacle that the hero has to overcome, and almost always manages to. However, compared with school hallway and playground bullying, the bully’s character has extended its reach, becoming pervasive, invasive, and penetrative, through the computer screen and into the fragile mind of adolescents. A lot of research has been put into the horrifyingly negative consequences of cyber bullying on teenagers, which sometimes reach having them taking away their own lives. However, not enough research has been directed towards why the haters hate, why the bullies bully. Do they grow up to hate? There is no one single cause of bullying among children; individual, family, peer, school, and community factors can place a child or youth at risk for bullying. These factors, or cyber bullying reasons, work individually, or collectively, to contribute to a child’s likelihood of bullying.
Cyber Bullying Reasons: The family
As the first playground for a child, the family is where the bud is first watered and gets to blossom. A lack of warmth and involvement on the part of the parents can result in the petals not properly and securely growing up. In addition, overly-permissive parenting, including a lack of limits for the child’s behavior, can somehow reinforce the negative attitude leading to cyber bullying. On one hand, a general lack of supervision, and on the other hand, harsh, physical discipline, can both entice aggressiveness in a child’s psychology, as well as the existence of one form or more of domestic violence, whether through parent modelling of bullying behavior, or by being victimized by older siblings (especially among boys).
Cyber Bullying Reasons: Peers
When a child grows up and goes to school, he or she is faced with the daily challenges of mingling with others who also feel challenged. Peers, classmates, schoolmates, etc, have a massive influence on how a child acts and reacts. For instance, friends who bully, or those who have positive attitudes about violence may encourage bullying tendencies. Furthermore, some aggressive children who take on high status roles may use bullying as a way to enhance their social power and protect their prestige with peers, while other children with low social status may use bullying as a way to deflect taunting and aggression that is directed towards them, or to enhance their social position with higher status peers Other Factors: Family and schoolmates do constitute a great part in a growing tween’s life, but that’s not all. While it is true that, when children are aggregated together, they associate with others who are similar to them or who have qualities or characteristics that in some way support their own behaviors, teachers, trainers and school administrations play a role as well.
For one, bullying thrives in schools where faculty and staff do not address bullying, where there is no policy against bullying, and where there is little supervision of students—especially during lunch, bathroom breaks, and recess. In addition, media reflecting what society is like exert a lot of influence upon the child, as models of bullying behavior are prevalent throughout society, especially in television and movies. Although it is debatable, but some research reveals that the prevalence of violence in video gaming enhances violent tendencies within a child or adolescent. Sometimes, it is much simpler than that. For teenage girls, social aggression can be a way of creating excitement or alleviating boredom. It is also used as a method of gaining attention from other girls in order to secure friendships, or to maintain a certain social status. Bottom line: mean girls.
Cyber Bullying : What is the motive? When reflecting over the motive for bullying; the reason is normally something about the victim that they could not change or correct. Examples would be dislike persons for their hair color, sexual orientation, body size or their economic status.
According to research by “Fight the Crime Teen” data, some primary reasons for cyber bullying revolves around interest in a male or female, appearance, race or ethnicity, and sexual orientation. The Social Skills Deficit Model theorizes that bullies victimize others in order to keep their power and social status. Bullies have a tendency to target others who have stigmatizing characteristics, that is, attributes that are socially devalued and discriminated against (for example: being obese; being lesbian, gay, bisexual, or transgender) However, there are several special features regarding cyber bullying when compared with traditional physical, verbal or indirect bullying such as the difficulty of escaping from it, the breadth of the potential audience and the anonymity of the perpetrator. In the past, bullying consisted of intimidation, manipulation, and physical aggressiveness against the weaker opponent. Bullying was most prominent in schools or during the day.
The outcomes led to championship of the stronger opponent and sometimes the confiscation of someone’s lunch money. However, in today’s world of cyber bullying the victim is often publicly humiliated. As a result, some victims devise a plan to get even by committing a stronger, negative action towards the bully or others. Any child, preteen or teen is a potential cyber bullying target. They don’t need to have home Internet access, a cell phone or any cyber-connection. The cyber bullies are perfectly happy to have the technology do their dirty work in destroying reputations or creating offline responses to online provocation. Obviously, when friends have a falling out or romance takes a bad turn, cyber bullying is a viable option to settle scores and share hurt feelings.