What is bullying?
Statistics indicate that bullying is something that takes place all over the world. It may start during infant stages of a child and persist even in their old age. Bullying and bullying behavior can be looked at from various angles. What may be considered as bullying behavior in one circumstance may not be regarded as such in another. The intensity of the suffering caused by acts of bullying varies from one individual to another. What one person may view as harassment may be interpreted by another as nothing less than a harmless fun. This makes the definition of bullying vary depending on the context in which it is viewed.
Generally, bullying refers to any acts of aggression, or harassment that may make the victim to suffer either physically, emotionally, socially, and psychologically. The suffering may be directly or indirectly attributed to the acts of harassment induced on the victim. It is critical for parents to determine at what exact point a certain behavior qualified to be regarded as bullying. Some mild behavior may be entertained for some time when the children are still young, but as they advance in age, it ought to be denounced as it may culminate into something more than just minor bullying. The longevity of such negative and unwanted behavior can also be used to determine the severity of the effects that they come with. There are several forms and types of bullying. For this reason, attempts by parents to understand what bullying is are geared towards arriving at possible prevention programs that will salvage the victims and prevent them from the far reaching effects of bullying.
Bullying starts when children are still young. They develop these undesirable behavioral traits as they interact with their peers during play. At this point it may be regarded to as social bullying. However, this type does not stop at the infant stage. A child who does not get reprimanded for this form of bullying may proceed with it until their adulthood. It is more prevalent in children who take advantage of their weak peers and capitalize on their areas of disabilities to harass them. A child who uses their body size or economic influence to obtain undeserved favors from his or her playmates is regarded as a bully.
At adult age, social bullying refers to acts of harassment by individuals that are committed during the socialization process. These are the type that always wants to be heard and noticed. Their bully behavior makes their victims vulnerable and can result into severe effects such as low self esteem and lack of personality. The victims tend to feel intimidated and humiliated. Such victims have the tendency to view themselves as lesser beings compared to their bully counterparts. Such individuals need to be identified and reprimanded to avoid the detrimental and stressful effects they pose to their victims.
When parents take their children to school, they tend to think that they are safe after living them in the hands of professionals. This is true to some extent. A majority of learning institutions employ a number of mechanisms to prevent acts of bullying among learners. However, statistics indicate that school going children are the most vulnerable to bullies and the associated effects.
Bullying is can be defined based on the impact of the behavior on the victim in question, and not necessarily the intention. For this reason, some school going children exhibit bully behavior without their consent. Such unintended behavior when repeatedly exhibited by the same child over a period of time may qualify to bullying. In a school setting, the bully, the victim, as well as the bystanders suffer the effects of bullying. Teachers and the subordinate staff can also be bullies to the children with or without their consent. By sidelining a particular child, or discriminating against them on the basis of their race, physical disability or other personal weaknesses, teachers tend to be channels of bullying in schools. Such teachers tend to instill fear among the victims through discouraging statements, and sometimes through physical assault. These could lead to the victims being severely depressed and stressed up. When the behavior gets to the extremes, the child may finally drop out of school. For this reason, it is the obligation of all the stakeholders to look after the welfare of the learners and prevent them from bullying at all costs.
Away from the schools, bullying also takes place at peoples’ places of work. This is referred to as workplace bullying. Workplace bullies mainly use words and actions as a way of intimidating their workmates. These may either be the boss or just a fellow employee. Examples of such actions include channeling of false rumors about the victim, hurling insults to them, issuing threats, sidelining them from meetings and functions at the workplace, and delegating too many responsibilities than they can comfortably attend to among others.
Cyber bullying is also another common type of bullying behavior that is exhibited during this age. With the new technological advancements, some people tend to misuse the internet as a way of bullying others. This is common across the many social networks. They hack into the victims’ online social or email accounts, and or websites and post information that will have negative impacts to the victims. They aim at frustrating the victims’ efforts of using the internet and modern technology.