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OP-ED:Be Determined to Beat Bullying

OP-ED Be Determined to Beat Bullying

The definition of determination is the relentless quality you show when you have set your mind to something- and won’t let anything stop you. You need to learn how to beat bullying.

Determination is what led patriots to revolt and free their nations; it’s what led legendary athletes to go for the gold, and what made vigilantes pursue criminals when the law failed.

Determination is the force behind champions, success stories and leaders. It’s the only power you can rely on when all else fails, and it’s the weapon you have against the odds.  A lot have done it before you, and a lot will do it after you…French revolutionaries, the Japanese, Lance Armstrong, Oprah Winfrey, the dudes from twilight and the chick from The hunger games …they were all ordinary people with mediocre abilities who rose to power not by a stroke of fate- but through good old determination.

This is how to beat bullying…

Now I couldn’t fight the urge to tell you a story of just how far it could take you:

Lying there in his hospital bed- deformed and mutilated; on the brink of death before his life had even begun- no one would’ve dared hope that he could come through, and every odd was frowning at him.

See Glenn Cunningham had been the victim of a tragic schoolhouse fire at the tender age of eight; the flesh on his lower body had been completely destroyed so that he was doomed a lifetime cripple, with no use whatsoever of his lower limbs.

From his bed the dreadfully burned, semi-conscious little boy faintly heard the doctor talking to his mother. The doctor told his mother that her son would surely die – which was for the best, really- or so everyone thought.

But he simply didn’t want to die- he had made up his mind that he wanted not only to survive, but to prevail- whatever it takes- and that he did.

He made up his mind that he didn’t want to be a cripple. But unfortunately from the waist down, he had no motor ability. His thin legs just dangled there, looking ugly and lifeless.  Ultimately he was released from the hospital. Every day his mother would massage his little legs, but there was no feeling, no control, nothing. Yet his determination that he would walk was as strong as ever

When he wasn’t in bed, he was confined to a wheelchair. One sunny day his mother wheeled him out into the yard to get some fresh air. This day, instead of sitting there, he threw himself from the chair. He pulled himself across the grass, dragging his legs behind him.

He worked his way to the white picket fence bordering their lot. With great strain and effort, he raised himself up on the fence. Then, stake by stake, he began dragging himself along the fence, resolved that he would walk. He started to do this every day until he wore a smooth path all around the yard beside the fence. He walked through the pain, and used it as an incentive- he became a fighter.

Ultimately through his daily massages, his iron persistence and his resolute determination, he did develop the ability to stand up, then to walk haltingly, then to walk by himself – and then – to run.

 He began to walk to school, then to run to school, to run for the sheer joy of running. Not everyone was supportive, not many people encouraged him or had his back. People always take others for granted- if you’re not going to value yourself, NO ONE ELSE WILL.

It took a lot of sweat and pain, but most of all time- there was no magical epiphany moment where he could suddenly do it and all his troubles would fade away. He faced setbacks and ridicule along the way, and a whole lot of doubt. Later in college he made the track team.

Still later in Madison Square Garden this young man who was not expected to survive, who would surely never walk, who could never hope to run – this determined young man, Dr. Glenn Cunningham, ran the world’s fastest mile, On June 16, 1934, Glenn Cunningham ran the mile in 4:06.8 minutes, breaking the world’s record.

He didn’t have a lot to work with, you might not either; but he was certain. He used what he had the best way possible, and he was dedicated. After this do you honestly think that anything’s impossible?

Nothing in this world can take the place of persistence; talent can’t, nothing s more common then unsuccessful people with talent. Genius will not; unrewarded genius is almost a proverb. Education will not; the world is full of educated failures.

Redirect the energy of your frustration; and turn it into positive, effective and unstoppable determination .Desire is the key to motivation, but it is resolution and commitment to an unrelenting pursuit of your goal- a commitment to excellence that will enable you to attain the success you seek.

Throughout your life not everyone will be completely decent to you; a lot of the times people are all about themselves, and they lose the balance between watching out for themselves, and abusing others in the process.

If you want to do something it will not always be a joyful process or a brief one- but you’re smart enough to know that there’s always a toll to pay for achievement. Maybe the price is  not always fitting in, and maybe it’s being bullied by those who are too ignorant to understand   But I promise you one thing- If you remain true to yourself, and remain positive and upright; then you will be fine…you’ll do well.

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